Am I old enough to marry now?

Question

Am I old enough to marry now?
I can earn enough to manage my own needs( +1 person's)...and feel I need a soul mate .But I am afraid that If I loose the job I might not be able to fulfill the duties as necessary... So Iam confused wether I should marry or not..!

What would you suggest ?
My family has moved abroad and I live alone with my grandparents(they get pension funds)... I pay phone+electricity bills for my family. I am confused wether I should marry or not?!@#$%^&*()_

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1 hour ago
I 'm 21+ some yrs and have some substantial savings to spend... for next 10 yrs if I stop workin now....but I am afraif of the uncertainity of future...I feel my love should not be divided between me grandparents .....! As I am responsible to an extent for their well being...here.

1 hour ago
People with lifetime experiences......HELP ME!!!!!!!

1 hour ago
Is it advisable to be single.....and wait for the time I get single.....till my grandpa's depart to heaven....then I can Bring in a new person in my life......!
I know you must be laughing at my thoughts....but icant help :)

Answer 1

Crazy thought, but shouldn't you meet the person you connect with on that level first before thinking about getting married?

Answer 2

Of course your old enough to marry, but the question I have for you is do you want to be married? If your in love with someone and they feel as strong or stronger for you so you do for them then you might consider it, but don't marry simply for the fact you are lonely and want a soul mate, make sure the person you are interested in is also searching for a soul mate and that person is you. In my opinion 21 is to young I got married when I was 26 and I've been married for 11 years now I could have married alot earlier but I waited until I found the perfect woman for me, no doubt you will someday find the right person for you and when it happens you will know it.

Answer 3

Your going to give yourself a nose bleed if you think about this sooo much! Relax! If your ready to marry, everything will fall into place! Your grandparents are lucky people and any girl or guy (Sorry, I don't know what sex you are) who falls for you will love you for your responsible maturity. It sounds like your almost ready for the next step in your life but give it a little more time, just to be sure! Your uncertainty tells most of us that your more than ready financially, but your heart is still too full of your responsibility to your grandparents. This is not a bad thing! Talk to your grand parents and tell them what you have been thinking and make them aware that you will be looking! But, don't look too hard! Take your time! You want someone who will support the choices in your life, not cause them to fall apart! Don't worry, your doing GREAT!

Answer 4

even as the female reached puberty or at some united states Muslim female are discourage to get married/be married lower than 18 or lower than 21. that is in simple terms in basic terms to stay away from different circumstances with the aid of too youthful age. Mature will be on the age of 21 and above. back, it in simple terms count upon particular people (enhance price - mentally/emotionally and bodily). how will you tell? that is in simple terms something on the right time and situation, that you'll understand (will be obviously - intuition or kinds).

Answer 5

you are old enough to marry but you need a love interest to accomplish that..... I took care of my mom for over 10 yrs. --- I made sure he knew my responsibilities and we got married.... You can also hire caregiver's to look after your grandparents --- it's not your complete responsibility and you should relay that to your other relatives. My mom now is on public assistance and has a girl that comes in 5 days a week.... talk to their doctor and local welfare office about getting them some in-home care providers- find out your options.

Answer 6

well,i am not "old" enough i guess,but i hope my opinion counts...i think you are financially ready for marriage...however, you only emphasized the financial aspect of the whol situation,not your emotioinal...in addition do you feel compatible to your partner?..if you feel the connection,well,,that's definitly a start.....other than that only you can answer this question for yourself...you are legally an adult..so whatever decision you make...you will have consquences to pay for....and i noticed that you are afraid of the "what if's" of your future..well that's only natural..but don't stress out over it...your 21 plus...right?....if your not 30 and over...you have no problems..you need to relax..and let time take care of this issue..and when you feel NO DOUBT what so ever in all or most aspects of marriage..then you are ready to get married :)...i hope this helped..it's merely my point of view..and basically it comes down to.."are YOU ready to take the jump?"...because no matter what these ppl on Y!answers tell you..it's their opinion...if you follow what they say..YOU have to live with the consequences...so relax....don't stress over this issue...soulmate or no soulmate...the final goal of marriage is bliss :)..take care and good luck to you

Answer 7

love is a beautiful thing, but it dosent pay the bills, it's nice to think love is all you need but realistically you need more, i don't understand what the rush is, you don't need to be in such a hurry, you fears of the future seem irrational, i mean we all have fears of what the future will bring, but what will be will be, so worrying so much dosent make things any better all you can do is work and save for the future, be there for your grandparents, if they need you, you will not grow old over night you need to also think about yourself and your own needs, don't rush, worry,and fret so much otherwise you will grow old over night. Good luck.

Answer 8

While its very smart to be financially stable before getting married, I think you are approaching marriage the wrong way. Are you dating someone? Is that the person you want to be with for the rest of your life? If so and if they love you, then you wont have to divide your love between your signifcant other and your grandparents.

Answer 9

I think you are old enough to get married. Make sure he is the right person for you. Your grandparents should accept the person you love, if they don't, look at the person you have chosen. Our grandparents are very wise. Don't wait until they are dead, let them enjoy your happiness. Good luck.

Answer 10

Marry when you meet someone you feel you want to share your life with...don't do it for convenience or financial reasons, or you're more likely to find yourself in the midst of a divorce (and those can get messy and expensive) down the road.

There's no need to hurry, you're young and have plenty of time...and soulmates don't have to be people we marry or even date...a soulmate can be a same sex friend...they are simply people we feel tied to quite deeply, but romance isn't implied...