I've always been a people person. I love talking and chatting with others. My wife thinks I'm looking for someone else. I've tried everything I can think of to help get her over this problem. She's beautiful, smart, alot of fun, great with opeople, and great in bed. To me she's the world. But no matter who I talk to, she constantly thinks I'm leaving her for someone else. What else can I do but stop talking to other people.
2006-07-07 05:15:37 · 16 answers · asked by rhurt54 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your wife is insecure.
there is nothing you can do for her. she has to do it for herself.
does she have deep-rooted problems that you are not aware of? maybe counselling would help. good luck
2006-07-07 05:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. The fact is, that the more she says these things, the farther she pushes away and before long, you will be looking for another woman. She's insecure and professional counseling would help her alot. Maybe an activity like square dancing where you both have to be in contact with other people would help break her out of her shell. Either way, talk to a counselor....
2006-07-07 05:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greg, the position the argument lies is that if someone isn't getting what they choose with their spouse, someone with a good quantity of self esteem, now to not teach understand, may take care of this with their spouse first. in the journey that they could not artwork on it and remedy their issues, then keeping apart and divorce may be the right route. It does take 2 to make or damage a wedding ceremony. although, the alternative to cheat is in protecting with lies and deception to the only human being who you're meant to be closest to. truly, the man you've advised the international, I carry this human being more often than not others. To betray it quite is betraying not in ordinary words your spouse yet relatives, acquaintances, and so on...
2016-11-01 09:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem too. Just keep telling her that you are in love with her only and you married her because you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Tell her she's beautiful a lot and smart and tell her that you appreciate everything she does. She may have trust issues that have nothing to do with you, maybe something her father or a previous boyfriend did. Talk her through each episode or fight. She will eventually learn to trust you, I promise. Make sure that when you are "talking" to other people it isn't flirting and doesn't even LOOK like flirting. And for goodness sake don't check out other girls in her presence.
2006-07-07 05:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by 1big teddy graham 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about her insecurity and jealousy. Why is it that she doesn't trust you? Is this something that has changed recently (did you talking to others not bother her in the past)?
You should be able to talk to whomever you desire. Her insecurity is her issue but she needs to deal with it, before it becomes something that damages your marriage. If you stop talking to others, you'll eventually grow to resent her for causing you to change part of who you are to satisfy her...instead of her getting help (counseling perhaps?) to improve her self esteem and learn to lose the jealousy and be secure in that just because you speak to someone, doesn't mean you want to have sex with them or dump her for them.
Encourage her to speak to a professional...or better yet, couples counseling. You may well both learn things about each other you didn't know.
2006-07-07 05:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think there is a way. I know this because I'm just like your wife. I know deep down my husband loves me more than anything, but I have very low self esteem beacuse of my parents. It's a choice that your going to have to make! Is she worth it or not??
2006-07-07 05:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by marieandlucaspape 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has serious abandonment issues. What was her home life like growing up? Did a parent leave? Was there a divorce?
Was she like this before you were married?
And why are all the guys answers soooo typical? I'm beginning to wish I was born female.
2006-07-07 05:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be able to overcome her insecurtities, this is a very hard thing to do. You probably cant do anything more than continually reassure her that she is the one, you find her very attractive and pump up her ego. She has to deal with this problem on her own!!!
2006-07-07 05:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You basically need to sit her down and tel lher that point blank. Do some really sweet things too, like bring home flowers and such...just reassure her again that shes the only one for you!!!
2006-07-07 05:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't stop with you not talking to anyone...her feelings would just go in another direction...for example...thinking that her performance in the bedroom doesn't please you and you are going to leave beacuse of it...trust me...it's a never ending cycle without counciling...get some quick.
2006-07-07 05:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some counseling. Don't stop being you just because she has a problem. Have her see someone, maybe you could suggest it to her doctor.
2006-07-07 05:20:50 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋