i cant seem to get past a first date with women, anyone have any generic tips?

Question

i think i might be too nice, what should i do?

Answer 1

Relax and be yourself, but on your best behavior. You're getting the first date, so there must be something interesting about you. However, I would guess that you're not making a good impression.

Listen to what she's saying, and don't interrupt. Do something interesting on your date instead of just dinner and a movie. It's too much pressure to make small-talk over dinner with someone you don't know. Take her putt-putt golfing or something like that. You know, participate in an activity that will give you something easy to talk about besides yourselves. Little pieces of personal information will come out slowly, and it won't seem so pressured.

Also - and this is the most important - do not appear needy or clingy. This will scare women off quicker than an unexplained skin rash. It's a fine line to walk between letting her know you're interested, yet not looking desperate. Ask her if you can call her again, and do so within a few days.

If she turns you down for the next date with a polite excuse, you can try again (perhaps the excuse was real), but don't push. If you call her every day, it will creep her out. No woman wants a stalker.

Bottom line, be patient and the right woman will come along. As long as you're being yourself, you will find someone who likes you, and you'll be extremely happy. If you pretend to be something you're not, both of you will be miserable.

Answer 2

Make sure you take a shower or bath, little not a lot of cologne, dress comfortable not slummy.

First impressions are always hard.
Make eye contact, smile, relax (men and women can tell when someone isn't being themselves)

For the date do something out of the ordinary : go bowling, horse back riding, dinning out is fun but you have to be able to carry a conversation, use this at the end of the date after you have done something else)

Go on a date with someone you have something in common with, not just someone you have been set up with. May make dating a little easier.

Don't worry so much about being to nice, some women like the gentle man that holds open doors, unfortunately guys usually stop doing those things with in the first couple of months. So be yourself.

Go to a ball game, play pool, go to the beach, go to a movie, rent movies and get some treats and the two of you can stay in.
Always ask the woman you are planning on dating what she is into, nothing worse then having to endure something that you aren't into cause you end up watching the clock and wanting to go home.

hope this helps.

Answer 3

Listen more than you speak--be empathetic--show you are truely listening by maintaining eye contact and occassionally nodding or going yes I understand. Be honest with her...meaning don't be telling her you are a millionaire and can afford anything you want if that's not true because she'll call you on it and it'll be your last date. Be clean and tidy, smell nice, and have good breath. When you respond to her try to be sincere and when there's something in common that comes up show enthusiasm. SMILE ALOT! Hope these tips help and good luck!

Answer 4

Depends on what kind of women you are dating.. If they are the loose sort (or the "uppity" type), you may very well be too nice with them. I have found that if you stay aloof and dont give exactly what everyone says women want, then they ALWAYS come back for more. Sounds kinda crappy, but until you find the one who is worth being "nice" to, always best to treat 'em the way described....watch em keep comin back.... oh, and youll know when its the right one.

Answer 5

Well, without seeing, smelling, talking with you...it is pretty hard to tell you what you may or may not be doing wrong. And there is no such thing as "too nice" it is just a matter of finding a woman who wants a nice guy and isn't suffering from "bad boy syndrome." She's out there, just keep looking!

Answer 6

1) Dont forget the chivalary (ie hold doors, pull out chair,etc..)
2) Be on time
3) Compliment honestly, but dont come on too strong
4) Ask her questions, and smile
5) Smile, comment, joke
6) Hold up your side of the conversation&

7) Tell her you had a great time, and your happy to have spent time with her
8)kiss on the cheek or hand at the end of the date

Answer 7

Try to make a move on them, you seem to be too passive and women will label you as another girl. Its just they way they are. When I am too nice to one I think that might be a keeper they lose interest. Try for the kiss, hug them when you meet, touch their hand, just not too much. You have to touch them, if you don't it can hurt your chances.

Answer 8

All you have to do is be yourself if that girl doesn't like you for you what's the point.

BUT that doesn't mean that we don't like for you to freshin up a bit or go the extra mile to make us smile nice things thin you'll have no problem with us.

Answer 9

there is no such thing as being to nice women love that trust me its a change from all the jerks out there but if you dating a girl then they like bad boys for some freaking odd reason, mature grown up women love nice guys just be yourself

Answer 10

it depends on what type of woman you are looking for and where you live. I live in NYC I like the artsy, bohemian type woman so i hang out at the MOMA Museum of Modern Art. When I see an interesting woman . I look at the painting she is looking at . and start talking about the painting. if she seems interested, I 'll suggest a snack the the cafeteria. and who knows........ if you like to hike, join a hiking club like the Sierra club or go to the library and join a book discussion group What is your pleasure what do you like to do, hang out in that environment,...that way you will meet a woman who is on the same page as you. gool uck