we have been friend for about a year,but lately she has been very snappy with me. every time we talk about anything we always disagree. I find myself just agreeing with her to keep from arguring. i care for her very much but don't know if i can take it any more. three months ago we have a bad argument and decided to part as friend,it only lasted 2 days. then we made up. but the same thing is happening again. things in her life are not going very well,and my life is going great, i feel guilty talking about my life around her , i try to help her out financially as much as possible. I don't know what more i can do. help.
2006-07-07 05:02:38 · 8 answers · asked by mailgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It seems this friend may have issues that you might not be able to help her with. Maybe it's something at home or a personal problem. Maybe since that big arguement you two had....she really hasn't forgiven you inside her heart and holds a grudge subconcoiusly. Maybe she's jelous of your life going so good and her's isn't and she's tring to bring you down onto her level of happiness. By the info you have given, it sounds like she's one of those people who hurts others to make herself feel better. Maybe she knows you'll be her friend, no matter how crappy she treats you and you'll always give her $ or support reguardless of her attitude. Maybe you feel like you can help her, but you can only do so much for somebody. Definatly, If they aren't willing to help themselves, then it's not going to do you any good to keep trying unless you want to be USED by her. B/c people will ride that train as long as you let them. Is what my dad use to tell me.... so be particular in who you let into your life.... and respect yourself enough to know who isn't respecting you back. I would just be honest with her without being disrespectful to her; how you feel when she acts a certain way towards you. Maybe she doesn't realize how she's treating you and you need to inform her of the attitude. Don't let her run you over, just step up and let her know, if she dosn't respect you for being honest... then she is NO FRIEND! Drop her like a bad habbit, you don't need negative people in your life. Good Luck, you sound like a good friend, but best friends don't come often.
2006-07-07 05:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Krazy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is bringing you down. Time to take her off your close friend list and put her on just as someone you may "associate" with from time to time. Take away her priveledges, like no more financial help. Limit your conversations with her. Limit your time. Find a better healthier friend. Trust me, I have had to reevaluate quite a few people in my life. Ifind that if a person does not enhance your life in a possitive way then they are not going to do you any good. They will try to bring you down to their level. Misery loves company. Cut her loose before it's too late.
2006-07-07 12:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most interesting things of having a friend is that you can learn from another person different things, like listening opinions that doesn't agree with yours. If you can do that without getting angry, you can be sure that you have a great level of comprehension with that person. But, if your friend gets rude and bad mannered, maybe is because his having a bad time, just let him by himself for a while, maybe he will notice what he is doing wrong and will change
2006-07-07 12:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by mikiburstein 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely going thru something that is making her horrible inside. Why don't you tell her that she is dancing on your last nerve . I know you understand her situation and your trying to help, but this is probably something that she needs to go thru by herself. The only honest thing I can tell you to do is to sepreate yourself for a while, but don't stop being her friend. That might cause drastic actions that you weren't aware of.
2006-07-07 12:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Corona S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't let her bring you down...Negatism breeds negatism...Go on about your positive way and if by chance her life picks up, pick her up again..You do't need to have a pity party with her for her to be your friend..Her problem is deeper than your and her relationship...and keep your money in your pocket..you can't buy a friend either...Find some positive happy friends....
2006-07-07 12:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Feisty AKA Mrs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had friends like that so I did what I had to do stop talking to them it made me feel a whole lot better, you should not have to put their feelings in the way of yours specially if you have a problem you want to talk to her about.
2006-07-07 12:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by fieldmicegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find another friend, honey. She is what you call a "fair weather" friend. She can only be your friend when things are good for her.
2006-07-07 12:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly I hate when they do that but were not friends anymore if she is so rude i figured she is not a real friend!
2006-07-07 12:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Taylurr Babee. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋