Why do so many teen-aged girls want to have a baby?

Question

I'm not talking about wanting one in the future. Many girls want them right now. They even talk like they are desperate to have one. Is it the cool thing to do? Is it a need for a bond in their lives?
When I was 15, the closest to wanting a baby was when I dreamed of having one with a member of Duran Duran or Jon Bon Jovi (yes, I'm THAT old). Beyond that, I was just concerned about still being a kid and enjoying it.

There were a few good answers that contributed to my thoughts on this issue. I'm putting it up for a vote...
Thank you for this discussion.

Answer 1

It's because they don't realize how much hard work that it's actually going to be, they think of a baby as a cool accessory that they can coo over and cuddle with. They don't always realize that it's not something you can store in a closet until it matches your outfit. They think that because they help take care of a sibling or babysit the neighbors baby that they are ready for having a baby. They need to think about education because these days you will not get a good job without college. They need someone to sit them down and tell them how much stuff costs, you need diapers, clothes, formula, bottles, doctors visits, daycare (which is really expensive these days) and other things that a baby needs. It's not just financially challenging, it's mentally challenging. If you're not aware of what a baby involves then you will likely be stressed. I wish that these kids would realize all of that before they try to have children at such a young age. The best thing you can do for your child is be prepared before becoming a parent.

Answer 2

Alot of teen agers don't feel loved or having a baby would make them an adult. What they don't think about is what actually being an adult actually is. When I was a teenager I learned things fast. I knew that I didn't want to go up to fast and that the steps taken between you getting your first job and going off to college are steps that help you become into a woman. Being 23 years old a lot of older people say that I am very mature for my age. I am currently married without any children and feel that before I have a baby I will graduate college and began my career in psychology.

Answer 3

With the weird society we have created, many parents are less affectionate because they haven't the time, working two jobs and trying to making a good living. Their children suffer and are deprived of stay-at-home Moms. Many girls want and need affection and if it needs sex and a baby to attempt to get this, then that's what they do. Boys react in the same way and want the affection and warmth of a relationship to someone. Many children are literally driven out of their homes by their own parents and when the child and the parent clashes over friends or conduct, it creates a void. Many of the younger generation are looking for acceptance rather than rejection and as they are rejected, they are forced to seem equal by child bearing, drugs or modish behavior. While many teen pregnancies end in heart-break for them, they are reaching out but the people that should care aren't there.

Answer 4

I really didn't want to be a teen mom. I'm happy about it now of course, but I never wanted that responsibility when I was that young. I don't get it either. I've seen those dumb girls on Maury, and I just want to slap them! They just want a real life baby doll basically. They don't even consider the hours spent with a crying child, the stress of wondering if you're doing everything right, the scorn you get from every adult that thinks that you're too young to do it right. Supposedly, this is caused by some longing from their family life that if their parents weren't there for them growing up then a baby will I dunno. Make it better. But it's crap. They're just stupid. That's all there is too it.

Answer 5

I am 16 and i know exactly what you are talking about. I've heard a lot of teens wanting their own child. I don't really know the cause of it, but maybe it is because the teen needs something important in their lives or they feel the need to be responsible. I think it is a bad idea for someone who is anywhere around my age to have a child because at first they may think it would be fun, but they don't realize the consequences.

Answer 6

I think that they are lacking something at home such as love from one or both parents. They think that if they have a baby then that will fill that void in their lives, but turn around and expect their parents to be a huge part of raising the child. After that they get upset w/ their parents for not helping them. It's a crazy crazy world.

Answer 7

Either because their parents are not raising them right or they just think they can do grown folk business and get away with it. I did not have my first baby till I was 23 and even then it is not easy so what make these young kids think it is easy at their age? They have no job, nothing. Who is taking care of these babies, their mom and dad. I have to say I think girls and boys should be born with their genitals closed up and when they become of age then it opens for them to do whatever. Teen pregnancy seems to be a major issue in this country and it needs to STOP.

Answer 8

i think they feel that way when they dont feel loved, generally at that age you dont seem to get along with anyone especially your parents i know when i was 15 part of me did want a baby just to have someone love me then it happened......now im 25 and i have a wonderful 10 year old son ....kinda crazy but luckly for me i had the support of my family i was able to graduate from HS went to college and all so i think that there should be more to think about then just having a baby.

Answer 9

No that's not cool and when they have one they will regret it.They just like how little and cute they be and when that baby grow up it's a whole different feeling.Some do it because of the income and food stamps they can get

Answer 10

I don't want a baby now, i think that's wrong 2 have 1 before Ur married.