irst of all thank you for ur care and sorry if my english isn't good enough,but found it good to tell you about it.
well,
I was in love with this guy when i was like a naive 15 -19 years old girl(that was when i even didn't have a bf)he was our neighbour and he was like 8-9 years elder than me.
the only time i could bump up with him was the time i was comming back from school,the maximum of our conversation was like this "the guy:"hi dear mary,how are u?" and from my side: "hi,thank you".
well i was a shy girl in that age and i thought that everything is to love and nothing else...
On the otherside he was a guy that was always around girls and well i was out of the boy's world.
well, one day one of my friends told me that her bf can tell that guy the story and ask him if he wants to be my friend!!
i first didn't agree it but after sometime with her insists i agreed with so many fears and so many hesitations ....(well he was the first boy which i loved and i haven't had any experienced like that before...)
the result was that he refused and told my freind's bf that"his father is like a Scarecrow in these cases[he was right in this problem] and the second reason is that she is still young and ...[my friend'd bf never told me the second reason but i knew that i was under 18 and he was elder!so i could guess it,anyway...]
Time passed and we both went find our life,i went to another city to study and graduated from univ,and i really left those chilhood stories away.
Also he moved to another area of the city to be independent from his family.
after all,i was always ashamed of that work and decision which i did when i was naive when saw him.
5-6 years passed and i became a young girl,like a 24 years old girl and i didnt see hin till last night,that i saw him with his father again in our garage of our apartment,but sadly unlike every other time which i was always the first one to say hello to his father and him,this time after hearing his voice from upstairs of apartment,i decided to not greet with them and i just quickly walked out of the steps in rush,eventhough his dad was still keeping the door open for me to go after my mom!my mom was there out of the garage and asked me loudly if i didnt see Mr..(she was wondering of my reaction).and well i was ashamed,and looked at his father and i said hello and he replied me with a wondering hello lady too.
and i looked at that guy,and although i saw his light shaking head down and short light hello from him,this time i just looked at his face and didnt say anything.
that time i really felt that i hate him and on the otherhand i remembered that his younger brother even looks at my face with and doesnt ever say hello to me (though he used to say when he was younger and now still he 3-4 years younger than me).
i want to remind u again that i was always the 1st one to tell his father and him hello till this time.
now i have a feeling like ashamed again but i know that i'm not and haven't been like this in any other cases or situations...
My mom has also told me before to not say hello to these young boys,in our neighbours as he knew them.but she was wondering why i didnt even say hello to his father,but actually the fact was i didnt wanted to look who are there,and i thought that its only him and not his father there,so i didnt even noticed who is keeping the door open for us to go first.
now what can u tell me,plz dont be teasing,i'm still shocked of what happened...) .
thanks
2006-07-07 04:56:26 · 5 answers · asked by Tanya 1 in Home & Garden ➔ Do It Yourself (DIY)
about the 1st reply,what do u mean by that?!we have never ever been friends,i'm just talking about my sudden reaction.....
2006-07-07 05:06:19 · update #1
Honestly, I think you did a brave thing. You stood up for yourself & your feelings. It doesn't sound like they care too much about your feelings.
This is where, as a girl, you learn to play coy. Meaning, flirting & making them chase you until you catch them. You need to make them want to say hello & wonder why your not. You can just tell your mom that you didn't realize the dad was there & then don't worry about it anymore. You DO NOT have to say hi to them all the time. Especially if you hate them now. (All excluding the dad).
Please don't feel ashamed, you did nothing wrong.
2006-07-07 05:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by pritigrl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just relax go on with life as if what happened in the past did not happen
Just say hello and be polite when you see him
they will see there is worry by giving them a reaction just be normal and they will not think anything but that you are being polite
2006-07-07 05:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well truth is , you are just very embarrassed by the fact that your friend told him you liked him and he refused you back then, and maybe you can't get over that now . but remember now you guys are older ur age and everything isn't a problem now , i think you should put all that in the past and if you like this guy still then try to get with him
2006-07-07 05:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are good friend, it is good to have a friend, you are luck in the spot to have a friend like this.
2006-07-07 05:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by chairbinder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what in the hell is this doing on Yahoo answers? I hate this kind of crap.
2006-07-07 07:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by whitney_leigh_ingram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋