i thought it was innocent at first, but not help?

Question

Okay about a week or so ago, i had an co-worker tell me i had a pretty smile. I just accepted it as a compliment. Then today he said i was pretty. Couple mins later he asked to kiss me! Yeah, knowing i just got married. Not to mention he used to work with my hubby. I told him NO, he asked and i told him andy(hubbies name) and he was like ohh...I just want to know when should i tell my hubby, call him before he goes to work, or wait and tell him tonight when we will both be home.

sorry missed a word, after i told him no, he asked why? thats when i told him andy.I guess he thought i would want to kiss him and dump my marriage...but hellz no

Okay thats what i was thinking. Figured he might worry or get worked up if i called him.

alright i honestlydidnt think abou telling my boss or reporting anything.For one my boss is not here. But i will speak with the second shift supervisor, he is a friend of mine and my hubbie, he worked with the guy also.

Okay well i told my hubby, he go tso pissed off. He wants to kick his *** so badly. But we dont know where he lives. I found out also he is illegal! I told my boss, he told his boss, but nothing has been done so far. If nothing is done, i am just going to find another job.

Answer 1

first of all if this is at work you must contact your employer and tell him or her of the crap that this iddiot is pulling. It must be reported and he must be addressed. He crossed the line when he asked to kiss you. Married or not he is not suppose to ask you that in the office or if he works with you. I would speak to my husband after you report it and then let him know exactly what happened. You did nothing wrong he did and as far as i am concerned fry his butt with your boss. Hubby should not be too involved because you don't want him to go to jail for assaulting this more on just report it and take care of business. NO woman or man should be put in a positon like that in the work place that is why there are laws to protect you. If your employer does not take care of it then call a lawyer.

Answer 2

Don't tell you hubby anything yet. Your colleague should have got the picture about where he stands with you, but if things get worse or if he persists then make a complaint to your boss and have your boss deal with him; let your hubby know after that.I think you have a strong claim for sexual harrassment.
Women should not put up with stuff like this...

Answer 3

Look, honey, this guy is being an ******. Don't tell your hubby...YET. Next time you see lover boy, just tell him if he comes on to you again, you're going to call your hubby on the cell phone and tell him immediately what he did and might add a little extra to really make it sound bad. He'll back off real quick. He sees you as fresh meat....let him know you mean business. You could always threaten to report him to the boss too. And then...DO IT !!

Answer 4

I would bring my husband to confront him. Do it now because if you do not show the other guy that you're concerned about the situation he will go further. Some men don't get the point that you are taken, so get hubby to set things straight so he can't bother you again.

Answer 5

I'd bring it up when you get home later so you can talk face to face. It's good to be honest with your husband, even if nothing happened. He should be aware this guy is trying to hit on you. If this persists, you should go to your HR department and complain on the grounds of sexual harrassment. It is never appropriate to proposition someone at work, let alone someone who's married. It's refreshing to see posts like these about people who do take their vows seriously. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

So, allthough it may not be the easiest thing in the world to do, tell him. That way of anything ever comes up about any of the situation. He is not surprised of caught off gaurd. Keep him informed. Its hard, but you got it in ya girlie!! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Okay..... The thing is he shouldnt call u that when u have a husband Well anyway tell him when he gets home that way he wont think it would be such a big deal....
~Taryn<3

Answer 8

If you decide to tell him to it at home face to face, no one likes having their day ruined before it really gets started. Plus it is common courtesy to do something like that in person. Just make sure it is worth telling him.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

tell him "filez-vous" [buzz off in french]. you dont have to give him any reason.

if he persists with wanting to kiss you, document the first occurrance and the current one and go to your supervisor, office manager, whomever for this is sexual harassment.

remember, tell him "filez-vous" unless of course you want to, altho that might lead to office politics problems if you do, not to mention what your husband might think.