as I can- I know its wrong- what shall i do.
2006-07-07 04:39:24 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
find your own man instead of trying to take someone else's
2006-07-07 04:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone and find a man who will appreciate you and not have 2 women on the go at the same time. If he won't leave his wife now - he never will! There are plenty more fish in the sea!! It'll be hard if you love him but you'll feel much better if you do the right thing!
2006-07-07 04:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by misstinkfrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your self-esteem, your self-respect, and your respect for others in all of this? This man is unobtainable. He wants nothing from you other than sex on the side, there is no real relationship to speak of, is there? Why are you putting yourself through this? Have you considered what the response from his wife would be if she finds out? Why are you putting yourself at risk in this way?
It is human nature to want what we cannot have. It somehow makes it seem more desirable. It doesn't make it more valuable, though.
You can get little out of this. It will be you who ends up getting hurt. Do you really want to waste your life on a man who is unable to be faithful in a marriage and who obviously does not want you as a real partner?
This is like having an addiction, as much as a drug addict has an addiction. Something in you must believe you are of little value to have ended up in such a no-win situation. People who value themselves highly do not get entangled in these kind of situations.
The infatuation and the risk add to this situation and you are seeing yourself as some kind of 'glamorous victim' - by this I mean something in you is secretly enjoying the pain you are putting yourself through. Crazy, isn't it?
You know it is wrong. That sense of morality is in you for a reason.
So, my answer to you is this - can you look in the mirror each day and honestly face yourself? You could before you met him.
It's your choice.
2006-07-07 04:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're one step ahead of lots of folks because you know it's wrong.
I'm so sorry that you feel so strongly for this guy. Sometimes love just seems to overpower all common sense and what we know is the right thing to do.
You can't let this situation get the better of you. You don't want to be "the other woman". You don't want to be the cause of another woman's heartache--we can't do that to one another! (My husband and father of my child cheated on me...it was the worst feeling in the entire world. It was so cruel of him.) You don't want to have this heartachy feeling for years, do you?
You must find the strength to leave this relationship. Find some fun single folks and hang out with them. You may find that dating people without all of the baggage is much more fun!
2006-07-07 04:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by mizchulita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get out. I am not going to say that he does not care for you as I do not know about the relationship. But I do no this he is a DOG! And once a dog always a DOG. He wants you when he wants you, and is not giving your feelings any thought. But why would you think he would treat you any better then his own wife.
what you shall do is: Get a life of your own, you do not need a man like that. But i would have to say this what kind of woman are you to know that he is married and think that it is ok for you to do this to her. Sorry what comes around goes around.
2006-07-07 04:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by freebirdat2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't leave his wife then he obviously doesn't love you as much as you love him. He just wants the best of both worlds and if you keep going back you will just get hurt. Do yourself a favour and find a single man who you can share the whole of your life with.
2006-07-07 05:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most married men have affairs to keep the spice in their marital relationship not in order to leave their partner. This is particularly true if they have been married for some time and have children.
If you can't handle his desire for you as simply a bit of a diversion on the side to his main interest then however difficult it might be at first you should leave him as overtime you will simply undermine your own self respect.
2006-07-07 04:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rafiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might hurt now, but its gonna hurt a whole lot more if you continue with someone who PLAYS AWAY from home.
Because you will probably be the second wife who gets played away from. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Go and find a free man, not someone Else's casts off.
No baggage, no probs - you KNOW it makes sense.
Good luck!
2006-07-07 04:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married men love to have a fling, some casual sex, some non nagging company etc. but we don't want to marry you. Suck, f*ck and have a good time, thats yer lot. Get used to it or get out. As a married man who's had many a mistress (Stress relief managers in the accounts) that's my advice.
Good luck.
2006-07-08 03:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he isnt willing to leave the woman for u, it means ur being used, im sorry to tell u this but u really need to sort this guy out and find a man of ur own instead of TRYING to steal someone elses, and as for the cheating scum that u are dating, he needs his thing chopped off for cheating in the first place....you have fallen for the wrong guy and you can do much better than him!
2006-07-07 04:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Terious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell u as a fact he will never leave his wife. he find excuses to stay with her. and even tell u he doesnt love her. The truth is he is trying to have his pie and eat it too. In other words never expect to be more than his mistress. If u want to have a real life find who will love u and commit to u and prove his love
2006-07-07 04:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋