Ok, so heres the thing....My husband and I are best freinds with anouther couple in our area. We all have been friends for going on 3 years now, everythings been great. We all get along great, we are even there youngest sons God parents. So the problem..well sometimes, well a lot of the times, I feel there is almost a "connection" between my husbands friend and I. We flirt really bad and all the time. Kinda in a touchy and sexually way. We have never talked seriously about it but its very noticable to everyone. My husband and his wife even tease us about it. Its like an on-going joke to everyone we know. Now I love my husband and we are very happy but honestly I feel things for this other man. Is the really wrong of me, do you think my husbands friend feels the same way about me? Should I act on these feelings? Should I ask my husband if we should "trade" partners for the night? Does flirting really means he likes me anyway? Any advice you have would help...thanks so much!
2006-07-07 04:34:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes flirting is just flirting and should be left at that. Even though you are married, you will still occasionally meet people such as this that you have a very good connection with. Often we develop crushes on these people, and if we weren't in a relationship then probably we would pursue something with them. However, being in a relationship and loving your husband you are better off just keeping things the way they are. The key is to never do anything with this friend that you wouldn't do with him in front of your husband or his wife. We all flirt and obviously this isn't hurting your relationship so it is ok. Just remember, there is a fine line and you don't want to cross it or you may loose everything in your life.
2006-07-07 04:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 13⤊ 2⤋
WOW!!! Well, you took your vows to your husband and your husband only. What is wrong with people today! Geez obviously your husband isn't doing it for you if you have to go else where. Think about the god child too would that really be right? Just seems to me that you are putting yourself in a situation that shouldn't be more than friends. If people are teasing ya'll about it then they know what is up. They are just waiting on one of you to make the move and then what? I know I would have allready kicked your *** if you were messing with my man in a flirty kind of way! HELL YEAH!!! Sorry I know I didn't help!
2006-07-07 11:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by lash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should ask your husband to trade partners for a night as this would be a bad idea for him to know. Have a bit of fun though - next time you see him, just grab him and have a real good squeeze of him and see his reaction! As long as you both promise not to make it common knowledge, what your husband doesn't know won't hurt him!
2006-07-07 12:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is never greener on the other side. I know alot of people that has been in your situation and acted on their feelings and regret what they have lost. My ex-husband kicks himself everyday, and its only been 4 years. It has affected our son greatly. The same thing happened to my parents and her best friend.My parents are divorced because of it. Its not worth it. Be Happy and thankful for what you have. You never know what you got til it is gone. Weekend visitation is brutal for children and parents.
2006-07-07 11:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by snickers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a divorce, sure, act out on those feelings. It's most likely infatuation.....it's fun to flirt.....but when you take it farther than that, you've crossed the line of the promises you made to your husband on your wedding day.
2006-07-07 12:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not worth it my parents actually divorced under similiar circumstances! It has affected all of our lives, we lost some respect for our mother (because we expected more)! Cheating affects more that just you! It's truelly a generational curse! Don't let that define your character! Remember the male "member" controls the male!And theres no turning back!
2006-07-07 11:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... sorry but thats kinda wrong!! Stay with ur husband and dont let this other guy get in the way...
2006-07-08 05:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your husband.
2006-07-07 11:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Awais 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is some Jerry Springer ****
2006-07-07 11:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by blaaaaah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask to switch partners,a foursome
2006-07-07 11:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋