i want to have a baby what should i do?

Question

im only 17

Answer 1

Trust me u might want to wait. Im 16 and have twins a boy and a girl and they have changed my life forever. Its much better if u wait.

Answer 2

Wait until you've graduated from high school (if you haven't already) and get a decent paying job first. Then once you can afford to have and take care of a child, I say go for it. Just be mindful of who you choose to be the father. Make sure he has his mind in the right place, and that it's what he TRULY wants to do. But make sure you can support the baby with or without the father's help, so you won't be like some of the clients that I see on a daily basis. I'm a social worker for the state of TX in the Health and Human Services Dept., so I see young girls come in all the time with children that they can't take care of and the father is long gone. Don't be a statistic! Have the means and resources to properly provide all the the child will need. Don't depend on anyone but you to do that. 17 is young, but I've seen girls as young as 14 taking full responsibility for their children, without any assistance, so it can be done. Best of luck to you, hon.

Answer 3

Being only 17 you should wait before you have kids. You may want them now, but you should wait for your sake and a babies sake. Think if you could honestly give a baby the life it deserves. And what happens when you have a baby and you discover its not all its cracked up to be? I got pregnant at 18 and let me tell you, its not easy at all. When all my friends were out partying and having fun I was at home with my child. Don't get me wrong I love my kids to death and wouldn't take anything for them, but I wish I would've been older and more responsible.

Answer 4

OK, so you want a baby, but how much do you want a child? How about a teenager? All of it comes eventually with a baby. Think about the things you will need to buy for the baby, the time you will have to invest in that child every day for the rest of your life. Are you ready to give your life over to the life of your child? Forever? Can you do all that and still have time and money left over for everything else? With the answers to these questions, you will know if you want to give birth to a new person or not.

Answer 5

At 17, trust me you are not ready for a kid. You may think you are and you might make a great mom, but not at 17 you have so much living to do before you tie yourself down with one of the greatest responsibilities in the world. Travel, go to school and further your education, get a job, make some money (it helps in raising a kid if you got some green) be vary selective about who you select to help raise said kid or to the point the gene pool that will be passed on. Please do your self a favor and do not get pregnant not at 17.

Answer 6

coming from a 25 yr old mom of 3 daughters.... I'll tell you that having a baby is one of the hardest things i have ever done. (well besides moving to Australia from America) you have to realize that when you get pregnant you gain weight that you may or may not lose, you may get really sick some days and not keep one meal down, then comes birth which REALLY hurts. Then when your bundle of joy arrives you have to spend pretty much every waking moment with it. When it's hungry.....IT CRIES... when it's lonely.....IT CRIES..... when it's pooed/wee-d it self.....IT CRIES...when you have a newborn it seems to cry all the time...Your whole life has to change. Like to go to party's? Well you can't take a baby with you.... You'd have to get a babysitter, and though it's nice to go out once in awhile... what was the point of having a baby if you leave it with babysitters to go out and party? Get the message? If you're looking to make your life a whole lot rougher....take the leap but make sure you realize that it is tough.... Don't get me wrong it can also be rewarding....but HARD.

Answer 7

You should ask yourself why do you want one. If you can't answer w/ something other than you want one or because you want someone to love and love you back, then your answer is you aren't ready.

Having a baby is more work than just giving birth. You will have to have the finances coming in, other than the government, to take care of the child for at least the next 18 years. You will have to feed, clothe, put a roof over their head, make sure you have the essentials for the roof that you put over their head like power, water, heat, air, etc. You shouldn't expect your family to help you for the majority of raising your child. This is your decision to have one so you should be able to support it. You should also make sure that you look at the father of the child that you want. You should not just go and get pregnant by any random boy. You need to make sure that he will be able to help you financially, emotionally, and mentally. You want to make sure that he wants the child as much as you do. You also want to make sure that there aren't any problems along the lines of alocohlism, drug abuse, abuse for that matter, medical problems that may contribute to the child. If you do end up taking care of the child you want to make sure that there won't be complications down the line because you didn't take the time out to learn about his family tree.

I think that you should wait until you have decided what you plan on doing w/ your life other than becoming a mother. How are you going to support yourself and the child. Do you want to go to school? If so, then you need to at least start that. You may not like it or still decide that you still want a child and find the right moment in your life that you can support the child.

You also want to make sure that you have a strong support group. You can't expect your family to take care of the child for you. You also can't expect some of your friends to come around or stick around especially if they don't have children.

Answer 8

Plz Wait am 24 with a almost 2 year old i never been so busy and tried with working. I love my baby and am married but if i could do it again i would . wait a little while longer and go to school first. To get a good job because kids take a lot of money.

Answer 9

well the problem is i don't know how old you are but if your young like 13-19 i think you should wait you still have time to live your life to the fullest and you should think about how your parent are going to take it cuz some will beat their child down with no problem then kick them out how would you know if you boyfriend will agree with this cuz some be like oh yeah i 'll be with you all the way but when that baby comes out thats when that don't want to be there or the want to cheat or hang out with his friends or go partying you also have to think that baby aren't cheat that cost you a lot but if your like 20&up just sit down and think about it ya dig i all most made that mistake and i'm only 16

Answer 10

You need to tamp that urge DOWN right NOW. You're young, probably not even out of high school yet, most likely don't have a steady GOOD-paying job, don't a serious partner, are not living on your own, don't have any way to support yourself or your baby (besides welfare...NICE way to raise a kid...NOT.).

You need to figure out a way to become an adult before you start trying to bring more kids into this already f'ed up world.