Im pregnant, im not keeping it. Should I tell my boyfrind?

Answer 1

-Yes its his right to know that he created life,,,,,

-Even if its not his you should not hold information like that from him. If he is dateing you he Prob cares for you and would like to help you with this. Holding info like thats is just as bad if not worse than lieing

- I personly think a father should have a chioce in keeping the baby as well. He might wanna keep it. Its his baby/daughter/son as well.

Answer 2

First off, it's your body and you are the one that carries the child not him but he should know because it could create problems later if you don't say anything. This is how you should say it but word it in your own way.

"(his name), I am pregnant and I have decided to have an abortion because I know that I am not ready to have a child just yet. I know that this is your child too and I am in no way trying to hurt you by doing this but I cannot have a child when I am not ready for it. I want to have a child when I feel that I can give it the care that they deserve. If you have an objection to this we can discuss it but I assure you that you are not ready either. One day when we are more stable and can afford to have and love a child we will try again. This is something that I have to do and hope that you will accept and love me no matter what I do."

And can I make another suggestion??? Use birth control, it's alot cheaper than running to the abortion clinic everytime you get pregnant. Condoms are a beautiful thing and they help protect from disease. Abortion is hard on a womans body and it sometimes prevents you from being able to have a child in the future, so please make this the one and only time that you do this. Be sure to protect yourself the next time.

Answer 3

It takes two to make a baby and both of you should have some input in this decision. However, you are the one who would have to go through pregnancy and would end up with the responsibility after it was born and believe me kids are not easy. If in any way you feel that your boyfriend would not understand or would make you keep the baby when you dont want to then I would avoid telling him. There are far to many unwanted children in this world already. Not telling your boyfriend now if far less of a problem than parenthood when you are not ready for it. I am sorry that you are in this position, no one should have to make this decision but just make sure you decide what is best for you and the unborn baby before you decide what is right for your boyfriend.

Answer 4

Yes you should tell him, of course! It's not only your child, without him you wouldn't be pregnant!
But, wait maybe together you two will find a solution, I don't know your age, but nothing is impossible in the life if you try hard and never give up! Just try hard and never give up! Don't do a mistake now, that will for sure make you regret later on, because if you didn't have children until now and this is your first pregnancy, if you do an abortion, you will cause very bad consequences to your organism, maybe you will never get pregnant anymore! Think about this!!!! PLEASEEEEEEEE

Answer 5

Well it sounds as if you have already made the decision that ulitmately needs to be made. You are asking if you should tell him that two of you made a child, but you are going to decide that it should not live. Do you often make decisions in your relationship that will affect you both and leave him out of it. Sounds like not bringing a child into this relationship is a good idea because you two don't have much if you can't talk about problems and then solve them together. If you are woman enough to have sex with this man, and your feelings go deep enough to have sex with him, then why would you consider not telling him. Either there is more to your situation or you are too immature to even be in it, because this is a no brainer. TELL HIM, or don't be with someone whom you can screw but not talk to. (p.s. All is not lost, you are obviously of sound mind enough to know when you have gotten in over your head. Don't lose that quality and even your mistakes can turn out to work for you. Trust me, I have been there. God Bless.)

Answer 6

I hope you can find some type of guidance other then here perhaps there is other choices for you other then asking yourself "should I tell the party who helped along with the conception" I mean I think you should find a counselor or a friend to mentioned the real situation from what I see here there is more to the story then just these words not trying to be noisy but I think you should need more guidance on a personal basis

I am sure you are going thru alot of stress
God Bless you!!!

Answer 7

Are you "keeping the boyfriend"? You must have liked him enough to sleep with him and make a baby. Then you should tell him. What relationship can survive with secrets? By the way...that baby you are going to have can bring you more joy than you could ever imagine. I just adopted 2 children and my cup overflows! The mother of one was going to have an abortion but changed her mind and my little darling has been ours since she was born...Mom never had to do a thing...She gave Sarah a future and a good home. The other one was 5 and her Mom was going to jail for a long time and she wanted Ashley to have a good life. They are the best thing that ever happened to us.

Answer 8

Why wouldn't you? He has a right to know what you are thinking of doing with HIS child! How would you feel if he kept something that big from you? Trust is a good basis for a relationship and if you keep this from him he will NEVER trust you again. What if there are complications wouldn't he want to know? Having an abortion isn't easy. You will need emotional support for a long time afterwards.Have you thought about using contraception? I'm sorry but i have strong views on using abortion as a contraception. If it was an accident and you were using some form of contraception then i apologise.

Answer 9

I think you should. After all, it's his baby too and he has a right to know. It's clear you feel very strongly about what you want to do and you should make sure he knows this. He might feel the same way as you about it and then you will have the support you will need during the difficult times ahead. Even if he doesn't feel the same way, it is your decision at the end of the day because it is your body. If he can't accept this, then you're better off knowing he feels this way. What if it happens again?

I wish you lots of luck for the time ahead. I think you're going to need it. Please, please tell your boyfriend. You will find it so much harder going through it on your own.

Answer 10

Yes you should. Even though the body is yours so the decision is yours as well, yet you made the baby together. He only has two options: He'll want it or he wont. But because it takes two to have the baby, I think he deserves to know it before you do anything. I am not going to take moral stance as it is not suitable for me. Whatever you decide, though, make sure you think it through. Dont let too much time pass by, but stay focused and truthfully analyze your thoughts before giving in to giving up your baby. Think about the relationship you have with your unborn. Think, think and think.

Answer 11

Have you decided to not tell him because you 1. know he WANTS a baby or 2. you feel ashamed or like you've failed.
You should tell him. In my opinion (I know you didn't ask for it) abortion is the most heartbreaking thing in the world...hurts you as much emotionally as it hurts that soul trying to enter the world to be a part of your life. Nothing in my life every hurt me more. Do me one favor, baby. When you go for your abortion, look at the ultrasound machine. That little heartbeat ... oh my... oh my. Think and pray long and hard and share what you're going through with your baby's father.