I have an amazing Fiancee. We have been having problems with his ex wife. I know that if he wanted to, that she would go back to him if he decided that. I know he loves me very much, and I know that this wont happen, but I am scared he will leave me for her. she always calls him and trying so hard to get him back, and each time he does not answer his phone, I think something is up. I freak myself out, and it ends up nothing. how can I let it go, and not let it bother me and think something is wrong if I cant get ahold of him ( we are doing a long distance relationship at the moment) there is no reason for me not to trust him, but I cant keep the past relationships that have hurt me, out of this one
2006-07-07 04:10:05 · 8 answers · asked by love2traveljen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This isn't something that you can just get over....I think all of us women who have dealt with hurtful, unfaithful men are like this because we've dealt with it before we don't want to deal with it again.
Just talk to him about it and have him talk to her while you're there just so you can get everything out in the open. My boyfriend I love him dearly and I do feel insecure at times because he has his daughters mother that he talks to, but he doesn't want to be with her because she cheated on him and left him while he was in prison....That makes me feel better knowing that.
2006-07-07 04:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is get a grip on yourself. YOU are the person he's got a relationship with now, not her. You are feeling insecure and paranoid, and there's really no reason for it.
Have you talked your feelings out with your fiance? If not, now would be a good time. Perhaps he is unaware of the fact that you're so distressed by this other woman calling and hounding him all the time.
Have you talked to HER? Have you told her to just back the f*ck off and get on with her life? Her relationship is over, and maybe no one's bothered to tell her in no uncertain terms that it is.
If you are feeling exceptionally fragile, maybe now's the time to get some professional counseling. It could do you a lot of good... maybe even suggest it to the ex.
2006-07-07 04:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, change your phone number. Second of all, get a restraining order. Third of all, buy a house somewhere FAR away for after the wedding. Problem solved! However, if you're having doubts about your partner's loyalty, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married in the first place. You need to know that you are each other's true love and that you love each other. and no one else, unconditionally. You shouldn't feel as if he would leave you anytime if you're getting married.
2006-07-07 04:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by cowgirl91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to deal with it inside your self, most of hurting is from ourselfs, we hurt ouselfs by thinking this way, just try to use your days and have fun and try to be happy, if something should happen it will happen u be worried or not. live for today there is no sure about tomorrow.
2006-07-07 04:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by admiralty_so 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to answer the phone when she calls and tell her to stop.
If he loves you he will choose you. If you wants her, then find out now before you get married. I am divorced... I know.
2006-07-07 04:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your instincts before you love someone you first need to gain trust, if he left you for her then you didnt loose anything he wasnt yours to loose. only time will tell.
2006-07-07 04:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by chrltthnsn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stop thinking about it
2006-07-07 04:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a penis.
2006-07-07 04:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋