Does a wife being verbally and emotionally abused by husband, leads her to lose her own self respect?

Question

Or was it because of her own stupidity and ignorance that allows herself to be verbally and emotionally abused by the husband?

Answer 1

No person deserves to be abused in any way, and that includes you. If you allow yourself to remain in an environment of abuse, eventually you will believe the lies. This is when you lose respect for yourself. A husband who abuses his wife in any way is also abusing himself. He does not love himself and is releasing his anger, frustration, and disappointment upon you. He needs counseling and healing.

You must resolve in your heart that you will no longer accept this type of behavior. Stand up for yourself and walk with dignity and respect. You are not stupid, nor are you ignorant. You are simply a victim of his own insecurities.

If you are afraid of physical abuse as a result of standing up for yourself, remove yourself from the situation. Let your husband know that you will no longer tolerate his behavior. Seek some help from someone you can trust. You are not alone. This will lead to you regaining self-confidence. Remember, you are a person, not a doormat, and there is nothing that justifies this type of behavior. He is your husband. He is not God.

Answer 2

Love is blind. Alot of times you dont realize that is happening until an outsider slaps some sense into you and opens your eyes. You can NOT blame yourself for being abused. The majority of the time yes it will lead to you losing your self respect but what do you expect? If you constantly have someone telling you how bad you are then how can you ever be right? You need to find someone that agrees with what you say and is an equal, not lower or higher. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

My wife was a virgin as well as I was when we got married. My wife has a lot of self respect and modesty too and I like that in a woman.. As far as trying something new in bed, talk to your husband and ask him if ever thought about trying some new things in bed other then just normal sex and foreplay. Then ask him if he had the chance to try something different what would it be. Your both married now so his respect for you in having self respect shouldn't change because you want to try something different in bed. It's not like you want to bring in another person into the picture, now that would be different. My wife and I talked about this subject and I told her lets both make a list of things that we would be willing to try. And the next night we sat down and went through each others list and put a check by the actions that we would be willing to try. And those were the things that we did through the next few months. It just added spice to our love life!

Answer 4

Speaking from experience, I can say it's a little of both. You start believing all the negatives things, because you think, if you weren't stupid you wouldn't be in the relationship. What the real issue is HE has a problem. He is threatened by his wife. He feels stupid and insecure, so he takes it out on his wife. Noone should have the right to take away another's self respect, especially not someone who is supposed to love and support you.

Answer 5

Again, love is blind, a partner doesn't see the damage being done until it reaches a breaking point, its not necessarily ignorance nor stupidity....its devotion and their desire to listen to the needs of their partner and try and full fill them, but there are those partners who are unreasonable, selfish and abuse their position as a significant other...this slow process can do more than lose ones own self respect, the emotional scares can cripple ones ability to contribute to a healthy relationship and damage ones own self esteem...its a shame...the damage inflicted takes hours of professional counseling and even then they are never as stable as they once were.

Answer 6

Well, she does this for love or to repay the husband in some way for something he has done for her.

The husband does not respect himself of course, and he thinks that the wife could have found something better that him, that why he's trying to bring her down to his level.

the woman stays in the relationship also because she thinks that it's a challenge, "how can something like you insult me?, you must have something special"

This type of attitude works with beautiful women, because they are used to hear only good things about themselves.

Abused women don't lose their self respect, they play with it, that's all. Because they get everything they want.

Answer 7

It leads you to believe that you are as worthless as the person is telling you that you are. It makes you lose every ounce of self esteem. Leave the loser.

Answer 8

Both. She needs to be braver and stand up to him. He abuses her because he can and she doesn't fight back. A chipmunk is small but it bites when handled. Be a chipmunk.

Answer 9

i've been with my husband for 16 years and have lived through it,,and actually i think it's the woman's fault for puttin up with it,,,,,i guess i am one of the women who hasn't left yet

Answer 10

its a little of both- im in the same situation- leave the loser