everything was rosy until we travelled to another country for 2 weeks and had major arguments and swapped bitter things.We are back now. i have shaken this trip off, but she cant get over it. we have hardly communicated in the past week we have been back. and we met once butall we did was argue and fight. it;s all aflling apart how can i get her back. could she possibly be just calling my bluff. how do i know. what do i do to win her back. any idea?
2006-07-07 03:54:36 · 25 answers · asked by wordpecker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think its over. i would move on and put this down to experience. she obviously doesnt want to make contact with you anymore. sorry to say this but its the truth.
2006-07-07 03:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she could see the future and you guys wern't meant to be together why did she waiste her time and get wit u in the first place and just so you can prove a point she can't see into the future. When you go on a trip it is always hard to be yourself anyway because your in a new space together both of you probably didn't know how to react to each others TRAVELING attitude I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years And we have traveld alot but the first 2 times we traveld we had different attitudes cause we were around other people but we argued and almost split a year ago and we are still together I thought we were done for. GOOD LUCK dude
2006-07-07 04:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by shebunkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if her trust in you has been shaken. You can't assume that it's your fault, however. Of course, I don't know how the arguments arose and what was said but it's likely that her 'image' of you has changed or is changing.
Most of us make an 'image' of the people we love, especially if we don't see them every day. Some people are better at it than others; some can change that image as they get to know the person better; some cling to the image they first created and when the loved one doesn't live up to ('fit' would be a better word) that image, they can be very distressed.
If I were in your position, I would try to think back honestly to the arguments and what might have sparked them (note: not what they were about - that can be quite inconsequential). Then I would go with love and no anger (if you can) and try to work through the problems.
It may be that she won't be able to take you back because her 'image' of you is broken. Some people will claim that it's you that has changed and that you are not the man she fell in love with. That is a good sign that she fell in love with something of her own making in the first place and not with you as you are.
If you persevere and are sure of yourself, it may be possible to get her love back and to help her see you as yourself. I wish you good luck.
2006-07-07 03:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl isn't the one for you. As much as you may feel you are in love. You can have a much better relationship if you make a sharp exit from this one.
I know this because you say that you argued bitterly when you went travelling. This is a clear indication that you are lovers but not friends. Allow me to explain. When you travel with someone you see the worst and the best of them and you both have no choice but to work as a team. When the people in question are best friends they are able to accept all the aspects of a persons character and work with them as a team without any problem. Or if there are problems, they can deal with it and compromise. You are unable to do this with your current girlfriend. She is right not to just shrug this off. It's a very important sign.
You should split up and find someone who can be your best friend and your lover. Then you will be fully aware of what true love is, how it feels and why people are always searching for it.
2006-07-07 04:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously had a very bad 2 weeks with you. She probably realizes NOW that this is the way it would be if she were to marry you. She doesn't want a lifetime of arguments, which is what it may seem like after what you two just went through. It might be easy for you to "shake it off", but it certainly wasn't for her. If you couldn't get along for 2 weeks, just imagine a lifetime!! Be happy that she realized this before the two of you made any kind of serious commitment. And to be honest, I think you should realize the same thing!! Both of you need to move on!
2006-07-07 04:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think 2 weeks of argument is a reason to break up then do it, because if you stay together or eventually get married, arguments will never end. Its better break up now, then getting a divorce. No matter how much two people love each other, they will always argue, because you are two different people and its totally healthy to argue in a relationship. It helps keep each other in check. Or maybe you just want a door mate for a partner....
2006-07-07 04:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by spidermaniii_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the greatest healer.
Why do you argue and fight, it does take two to fight. You may have differences that are not reconcilable.
If you want her you need to change things, the first is the arguing, thats not fun. You need to find out why you're arguing only you know this and change the way you get into fights.
She'll soon come running back, girls are easy
2006-07-07 03:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to leave her alone for a while and let her think things through, and you need to do the same. if you argued that much, then you're obviously not very compatible in effect. she's realised this so you need to give some space and have a good think about whether you'll be able to work it out long-term or not...
bottom-line: be patient! do not keep calling her and texting her. just tell her you wanna meet once and let her know how u feel
2006-07-07 03:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about it, it's done.
She has it in her head that it is done.
The best thing you can do now is break it off for a while and then if she comes calling, then you'll have a good chance of rebuilding the relationship.
Relationships with a lot of arguments suck. I have been married for 3 years and have had like 2 arguments with my wife and can't remember what they were about.
2006-07-07 03:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by ColvinBri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the reality that is women. Just ask her what it will take to get things back on track. If she says nothing ever will, don't waste any more of your life. Just keep in mind, it takes two to make a relationship work and two to make it fall apart. Do you know your share of this?
You're not alone in this situation and it won't be the last time for you either.
2006-07-07 04:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out the real reason she said that. Arguments happen. Sorta like the for better or worse. It's possible the argument is just an excuse.
2006-07-07 04:00:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋