RE-Different Races going out??

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DiFFerent Races going out!!?
well, i'm south asian,(filipino, thai, cambodian, and singaporian). Right now i'm going out w/ this black guy. i really like him, but i didn't tell my mom cuz she would flip. and also when mi and my boy are out in public, ppl give us these wierd glances, it's sooooo annoying, i said to this white gurl,"wat the **** r u glaring at?". is it abnormal for a south asian gurl to go out w/ a black guy???

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19 hours ago
i really wanna tell my mom about us, but my mom would flip the minute she sees him. i mean he is fine and everything, but he talks and dresses different from what my mom likes. So she will think he is going to rape me just cuz he is african. But we have a lot in common, not the greates things, but still...

yea, i kno a black guy w/ a south asian gurl isn't wat u see everyday i guess. But when i went back to NYC i saw asian gurls w/ black guys, i don't think they were south asian tho, but still...it's not li

Answer 1

Personally, I don't think you are equip to handle an interracial relationship. You seem too worry about what other people think, afraid to tell your mom, etc...

Perhaps you should return to your cocoon.... It really irrates me when I see questions like this. It's the twentieth century and people are still tip-toeing when it comes to interracial relationships...

Answer 2

As a White girl who married a Hispanic man, I can tell you that ultimately, it is not skin color or the looks people give you that matter. Difficulties arise when cultural values clash--Asian and Black culture are different, just like Hispanic and Anglo. Make sure you make sure your values and beliefs are similar before you take this any farther.

Best of luck! If we can cross these bridges as individuals, then just think what could happen worldwide!

Answer 3

The thing you have to remember is if your going to date out of your race your always going to be subject to public scrutiny b/c it is going against the norm. People are always going to have to have something to say and people are always going to stare so if you are going to get upset everytime people look at you funny or say something out of the way to you maybe an interracial relationship isn't for you.

I think society has come a long way with accepting interracial couples but at the same time there will always be those who disagree with it and it is their right to express themselves if they chose no matter how it makes you feel. Bottom line...If you can't handle the heat stay off the black meat.

Take Care Gurl!!

P.S. - You really should tell your mom about your BF b/c if she finds out by accident she is really going to be pissed that you didn't tell her. It also makes it look like you have something to hide, maybe something your ashamed of or at least that is the way it will look.

Answer 4

Stop looking their way and you'll stop noticing their glances. Why do you notice or care what strangers think?

You should be concerned about what your parents think though. It's not right for them to try to force racist beliefs on you, but at the same time maybe there are other qualities of this boy they don't like. They love you and are looking out for your well being. You owe them respect & honesty, and while you're under their roof you need to follow their rules.

Answer 5

I can definatly feel for you there! I'm white/native American and am going out with a Korean who's Buddhist (and I'm Christian) my parents hate it, but they haven't stopped me. Don't worry about your mother! Surely she'll understnad that just becuase he's different doesn't make him bad!!

I don't think it's weird at all that you're going out with someone outside your race. You should be happy no matter what the color. Good luck! :)

Answer 6

Well, I'm from Malaysia, my husband is white. I think when there is love, colour does not mean anything... My mom used to feel 'insecured' with my western husband (image of high divorce rate), but now she is totally happy that her son-in-law is taking good care of her daughter, and has accepted him as one of the family members. Give your mom time, she just wants to make sure you're happy and safe. As long as you are happy, she will be convinced that she needn't worry.

Answer 7

I don't see what's wrong with that. If you're south Asian though, they tend to be quite racist (almost even more racist than is perceived of white people in the western world... and I know this by experience). But I bet that if you were to date a white guy, your mom would be okay, huh? You should tell her to stop being racist and closed-minded; you're allowed to love whomever you want to.

Answer 8

How does he dress and talk different from what your mom likes? Let me use my psychic powers...Oh, gansta and ebonics. I'm getting a vision...Oh, he uses the N word a lot. Maybe if he didnt dress and talk like getto trash people wouldnt have a problem with you. Have some class.

Answer 9

There is nothing strange about it.

However, telling your mother... maybe not.... Gay kids always want to tell their parents -- and its a bad idea 50% of the time. You know you are happy. Be happy. When you are on your own and they don' t have any say -- tell them whatever you want, but while they can throw you out or make your life horrid -- keep to yourself what they, in their ignorance, don't want to know.

Regards,

Reyn

Answer 10

There is only one race -- The human race

The human race come in only one color - Melanin

Different shades - One color

call me old fashioned but i do not recommend dating animal, mineral or vergetable outside of the humn race