2006-07-07 03:10:10 · 17 answers · asked by Boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are in a relationship where you are or cant be yourself and are not truly happy, then there is a problem or one about to happen. We were never promised a lifetime of happiness when we came into this world but we werent promised unhappiness either. The worlds what you make of it. These are the challenges of everyday life but if you are in a constant uphill climb to be who you are and happy everyday then this relationship isnt the one for you. True, there will be bad hair days but no one should ever have to struggle to be yourself. Be true to yourself and impress no one but yourself. Afterall being you is exactly what drew your partner to you. Good luck
2006-07-07 03:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you're losing yourself because of a relationship then you have to rethink things. If you mean, "I'm not myself because I can't go out and party with the girls every night" then you either need to accept that those times are done or leave the relationship. If you feel like your every thought is being controlled by the relationship, then leave the relationship. Love is great, but it is completely overrated. It is not the most important thing by far. Being happy should come way before love. Thinking otherwise is how people end up in abusive relationships or on Jerry Springer.
2006-07-07 10:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Del 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...
I would say be yourself and see how much your other partner accepts you. The best thing you could really do for yourself is that, and if he accepts you, you know you could keep that relationship happy and going.
If not, then I would say just lose the relationship. It is hard, but honestly, think about it. If he doesn't accept you, you hold back practically all the fiber of your being back. You can't take whatever the leisure you are doing or anything.
However, the only acception I see in this is the fact that if you are taking drugs, hanging out with the wrong people, abusive, perverted and want everything done it them (x_x), and etc.
But if this question really pertains to you, then I wish you goodluck. ^_^
2006-07-07 10:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by endlessly_waiting_in_the_rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, if you are asking this question, then you may not be a the right relationship. A relationship should flow easily and make you happier, if it doesn't then you need to move on and find peace with yourself for a while and then once you have figured out who you are, you will be ready for the next path in your life. Many relationships just prepare us for the final dress rehearsal anyway. Move on...
2006-07-07 10:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by chihuahuas2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and do things by yourself with your friends. Not with your honey. Make sure you keep your own interests you had before you got together. This will keep you...you. this way you look forward to spending time together and then apprieciate each other more. It also gives you something to talk about. Or you could even try something new by yourself, like take an art class. or something. you need you time, I guess that is what all of this means. Blessed be.
2006-07-07 10:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you still allow private time for yourself, YOUR friends and the personal, little things you've always enjoyed doing. And make certain you encourage your partner to do the same.That way, the relationship can grow without you losing yourself, your friends and your family.
2006-07-07 10:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay true to who you are at all times you won't lose yourself. Alot of people make the mistake of acting different to snag the person they want and then ruin things when it's time that they start showing their true colours. Try not to do that....just always be you.
2006-07-07 10:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is alot of compromise but if you are losing yourself then it's time to depart. It's suppose to enhance you and make your life more satisfying. If it's not doing that then it's time to make some changes which could also mean moving on.
2006-07-07 10:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody needs to change to have a happy relationship. Just be yourself, and everything will fall in place. Trust me, it's all good.
2006-07-07 10:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by kristian121989 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be happy in relationship u shud be just urself and that it is a success if ur partner accept u the way u r
2006-07-07 10:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋