How should I prepare for the move? I am not asking whether it is right or wrong? Just some some tips.....Thanx
2006-07-07 03:08:32 · 12 answers · asked by cndipas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please please please take my advise - make him commit first. Otherwise you are asking for trouble. Take it from my experience with 4 other men. The guy I am with now - I told him - no moving in together until he decides he wants to make it permanent. And things are going fabulous. The only other thing I can say is if you do move in together before being committed to each other formally - dont combine finances until you do. Otherwise - living together can be great. Just remember you will be sharing space - and sometimes that means giving each other more of it - LOL!
2006-07-07 03:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by steffie180 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you are not married and have no immidiate plans to wed. If that is the case, make sure it is a short lease. If possible, don't get your name on the lease so you can leave at any time. Make sure you can afford the place on your own if he leaves and your name is on the lease. DISCUSS MONEY FIRST!!!!! I cannot stress that enough. Before my guy moved in with me we actually compared credit reports. I know that sounds extreme, but it was great for us. We both knew exactly what we were getting into. You don't want some person who can't handle money sharing expenses with you. Decide how you will pay for each bill and discuss what bills you will have (like a land phone line, internet, cable etc). Also discuss what you will each be responsibe for doing around the house/apt. Does one person expect the other to do all the cooking or cleaning? What about pets? Make sure your place will heve plenty of space for all of your things. I had a very nice large two bedroom apartment when my guy moved in with me. My place was fully furnished and he had minimal possesions because of a divorce, but that place got so small so fast when he got in. We moved to a house when my lease was up and things are great, but there was a lot of adjusting to go through for both of us. Try to think about the little things: My guy smacks the snooze but I am up at the first sound. For months I was waking up at 5am when I had nothing to do for hours. It was very frustrating. You should also discuss things like people coming over. I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, but I came home one day after a long day of work and I just wanted to go to bed, but my guy had a bunch of guys over and I didn't know they would be there. This is a lot of rambling, but I hope it helps. Good luck and have fun!
2006-07-07 04:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a plan of what pays what in a fair manner, otherwise, those "gray" areas of finances can ruin a relationship.
Have an exact plan of distribution of household chores. If you don't discuss this before hand, then you will be stuck doing all the things around the house and no right to complain or modify it later.
Have policies on going out and having company at home, otherwise, you might be stuck with his "homebuddies" all weekend long or longer.
Good luck
2006-07-07 03:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might help to try a practice run and have him stay at your place for maybe 5 days or so. It's not the same as moving in, but it will give you a chance to see what it's like to be with him all that time. See how you both handle things like dinner, cleaning, when to go to bed, etc.
2006-07-07 03:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh tell him what you don't like is a good place to start example
toilet seat up
put the lid on the tooth paste
things like that i no it sounds silly but when you live with a man oh gosh silly things get to you
good luck with the move i hope you will be both very happy in your new home
respect
shaz
2006-07-07 03:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk about both of your pet-peves. Also dicuss money issues and bills. Last but not least cleaning. Decide how wil do what and when and how. Also it helps if your in love...
2006-07-07 03:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by ~desi~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't expect too much. Don't expect this to be perfect, or a happily ever after story. Both of you will get on each others nerves at first.
2006-07-07 03:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married
2006-07-07 04:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by stillshyneing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your finances SEPARATE!!! I learned the hard way when I moved in with my then boyfriend--now ex husband.
2006-07-07 03:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to pole dance.
2006-07-07 03:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Buster Hymen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋