We've been married for 2,5 year. I can definitely say that we love each other. but my Huby has a problem...or it's me who has a problem. Everything, everything whatever it happens IS MY FAULT. I bought a hammer, it's broke - MY FAULT. He couldn't set up clock on my cd-player that I boought for my car - MY FAULT. He told me once on last friday, that he needed some paper(I know where it is). I forgot. Because it was a week ago. And now He remembered that and blamed me for forgetting. I admit, that I foget things, because I have too many things going on in my life. I study, I work in the company where I do accountanting for 8 companies, I do my our business....of course I forget things. I tell him, I forget, I'm a mass person.
But the only thing I ask is not to YEAL at me with "f" words!!! How can I let him know that he isn't right?
I pray that he understands...
2006-07-07 03:03:00 · 8 answers · asked by Young_woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd probably tell him to shut the hell up. You can't let people make you feel like crap. You can't give them that power, otherwise they continue to do it because they figure, "well, she let me before, I'll do it again". Be strong, stand up for yourself. and by the way, theres nothing wrong with you. You sound human to me. He's the one with the problem.
2006-07-07 03:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel , everything at my house is my fault too. My wife who stays at home has been known to call me at work and complain that our 4 year old twins made a mess in the front room what am I going to do about it as it is MY fault for working and not watching the kids. By the way I work 60 plus hours a week make decent money and still cook most of the dinners and do most of the cleaning. The childern behave pretty well while I am at home and will clean up after themselves when asked. I have finally decided she needs to grow up and relealize she too has some responsibilites too. I know that she is suffering from depression but the routine gets old after a couple years
2006-07-07 03:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is where it is time to actually seek some marriage counseling. My ex was very controlling, and laid blame on me for many things. It began to escalate, to the point of abuse.
It is time to get some help for your marriage now! find out what his issue is. He will begin to look to all problems being those not of his. make sense? I do not want to scare you, but this could possibly become a serious situation.
NO MAN should ever make his mate uncomfortable, or feel bad! Do you hear me? NO MAN.
Sounds like he is a controlling personality, time to just be on your guard, never ever let him hit you. And look into some resources in your area for this situation. please.
(I do not want to appear as though i believe all men are scum, but there are personality traits of some that ring true too many times.)
2006-07-07 03:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by LoverOfQT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married 8 years and done the same tang to my ex i had a superiority complex your husband is probably unsecured and doesn't like to admit when he's wrong so it's your fault you can try to talk to him about it at first he will probably Dennie it and get mad but if the two of you don't work this out it may get worse you may not want to hear this and i know he won't but you mite need marriage counseling and it sounds like he may need anger management all i can tell you is that i refused and now I'm divorced
2006-07-07 03:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by TN cave man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. His behaviour is hurting your feelings and this type of guilt inflicting is a vicious cycle. You need a medietaed therapy session with your hubbty to be able to discuss the pain that he is causing you, This is an issue that needs to be adressed and you both can benefit from better communication skills as a couple/.
Good luck
2006-07-07 03:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, and tell him if he can do it better, then he should do it. Everybody forgets, that, as far as I know isn't a crime. Men seem to have to have someone to blame for everything. And far be it that they take some of the blame. I wish you luck..
2006-07-07 03:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest marriage counseling. You are his wife not his mother or his keeper. Are his arms broke and he can't do things for himself? If not tell him to get off his lazy *** and do stuff for himself. You sound like a fairly intelligent person with your job description so don't put up with that crap.
2006-07-07 05:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by dawno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the beginnings of verbal abuse
2006-07-07 04:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by stillshyneing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋