My Husband is seriously sick!! The doctor say he would die within a month. I am grieving at the moment. But what is really killing me, is that when he dies, I will have to marry his younger brother! My cultures are different from theirs. I have explained to my husband now that he is alive and he told me he will talk to his brother about me not being comfortable with that because of the cultural difference. He has spoken to him, but the whole family and hius brother refused. It's part of their tradition and it has to be that way!
I want to kill myself now!! I am going to be handed down as a piece of meat!! What do I do? Please help me
2006-07-07 02:58:14 · 19 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Husband as two other wives! I am the third one!! and we are located in the Middle east! I am currently in Spain, that is why I am able to get to yahoo answers! Otherwise, a woman is not allowed to use a computer!! So, I cannot walk away after he dies, cause I don't have a child for him. That is why his brother should marry me and continue the blood line.. Has anyone ever heard of this? Continue the Bloood line?
2006-07-07 03:13:52 · update #1
Please my time is running out!! I will board the plane in 24 hours bound for the east!! Do I run away now or wait till I get to that place that women are allowed to do nothing !!
2006-07-07 03:17:45 · update #2
Dee, I think I know where you are coming from!! I was in a similar situation like that once in my life! This is what I will advise you to do! better for you to take action before your husband dies. If you wait after he dies, you are going to be family property. I kow you love your husband a lot, but sometimes, our decision have to come first! Get out of there as fast as you can. Right Now! Like I said, I was ina situation like that once, and I was almost killed by the family! Run Girl RUn
2006-07-07 03:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mamamia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can twist your arm and force you get on the plane. You are in Spain and if you get to the M.E. you will be trapped and a loveless marriage an in circumstances that you might no be used to.
You are in another country and you don't have to do this. Be by your husband's side until he dies and then go on with your life, if they come after you then that will be nothing short of kidnapping.
Don't get on the plane, you will regret it and there will be no way out after you land there and you know it. There is a movie with Sally Field about something similiar and how she had to basically run away after being almost imprisoned in the M/E. as one of the "wives" . Don't do it/
2006-07-07 10:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm So Sorry About Your Husband,I Feel Sorry For U And Your Husband. What is the sickness,Please Respond,I'l Pray For U!
Hope The Best Comes Your Way!
*Angel Girl*
2006-07-07 10:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by AFI Obsessed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I dont know how to respond to this. I'm not one to normally dis cultural traditoins, but thats just messed up. I guess it matters completely on where you live. From the sounds of it, I'd say India. Anyways,I can only sugesst that either you can quickly set him up with someone he can love, marry a friend, or move away. Altho I dont think anything I say or do will really help, I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-07 10:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by GlennSueznin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ... I'm so sorry your husband is so ill. That alone is enough for someone to deal with let alone the added stress of foreign customs. I'm sure in their culture its not meant to be a bad thing ... but in today's society its barbaric!!
Do you live in the United State?? Do you have children with your husband?? If you live in the US and have no children I say be with your husband to the end and then disappear yourself. In this day and age no one should marry unless they want to.
2006-07-07 10:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your husband while he is sick and when he dies RUN like hell, pack your stuff and get as far away from these people as possible and start a fresh life for yourself, you are not a piece of furniture to be handed down from genration to generation. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-07 10:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refuse and possibly have your husband write his wishes down on paper. You cant get married if you refuse to talk at the ceremony.
2006-07-07 10:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm...you don't have to do anything you do not want to do...make the best out of the remaining time with your husband then move on...without the brother or the family...move away if you have to...but my no means should you ever do something against your will...
2006-07-07 10:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to do anything... if you don't want to marry his brother then DON'T. Very sorry you're losing your husband, but why are you on here instead of being with him? Kinda sounds like you're playing games to me...
2006-07-07 10:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Biblical times it was common for a man to take his dead brother's wife. But last I looked it is 2006.... Follow your own path.
2006-07-07 10:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋