Ive been married for almost 2 years he has had atleast 15 minimum wage jobs that he has screwed off becuz he had smthing better to do or was "sick". Neverthinks about me and the baby just him and how hes gonna get high.his mother pays for all the babys needsHe treats me like crap and calls me names says I dont do anything i should just get a job and let him stay home. I cook and clean and take care of our 16mnth old child. He drives me nuts. Im tired of this and Im gonna leave him as soon as we get back from vacation at my moms,she even got him a good job for a while and he wont go. Im tired of his ****.he keeps making jokes like im really not gonna divorce him. he sd i would call him baby for the rest of my life no matter if we had a divorce or not. just stupid stuff but his ways have made me so crazy that i just cant stand him anymore. please help any opion about it is appreciated.
2006-07-07 02:44:52 · 18 answers · asked by Hillary R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you think hard about what you just wrote you will find the answer. You said your self all he thinks about is hisself and getting high. He made a child with you didnt he? The most important thing in your life should be your child or children now. Get rid of him and get a life for you and the baby. Leave him . he sounds like he needs an awakening.
2006-07-07 02:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Hillary,
I'm 25 yrs old now. My parents have been at it since as long as I can remember. You have to think about what is for your family in the long run. Do you want to save your marriage? Give him an ultimatum. Talk to him, tell him how you feel in a CALM manner, write him a letter if you have to, and then once you've given him the truth you can take it from there. IF he still responds in an immature way then I'd suggest that you call up a relative or move to another state where you won't be tempted to call him while you're away. Give him mucho space for a good while (maybe months). After that,call him and see what's up. See if he has changed and if he's serious now about your marriage. If not, then I guess it's off to court. Gd luck. I hope it works out for you and your family. Please hold to your guns and don't give in. He has to see that you are serious!
2006-07-07 09:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy Church Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A drug user will always care more about getting high and not care about you or the baby. He will believe you when you leave and file for divorce so get on it. Quit trying to fix him but having great things set up for him. Go move in with your mother and start over it is better for you and your baby and maybe he will realize what a fool hes been or not. Either way make you and your baby safe until he grows up and matures a little.
2006-07-07 09:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
other than the getting high thing........this is my life. My husband also couldnt hold a job, wouldnt go to work or stay home with the kids, was very rude to me...controlling/talked alot of sh*t about me etc. Made me be the responsible one for everything and trust me i know how it feels. Why stay with someone who is just another mouth to feed when they are just dragging you down and they dont even seem to give a crap about you. He is just making those jokes because he is being minipulating, he is either trying to intimidate you or make you feel dumb so you wont leave because he doenst want you to. I had problems with my husband from day one and it took me 2 and a half years of marriage to get the stenght to leave. I honestly however dont have any advice on how to get rid of him. I basically just woke up one morning (with the help of my new boyfriend) and realized I was wasting my life and threw out all the balls i had and told him i didnt love him and get out. It was hard but the only thing i could do was be blunt, honest, and STRONG. Dont let him twist your words or beat you down.. zone him out and stick to your word.
2006-07-07 09:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me you already have made up your mind, which is the first step now put it into play. If you already do everything on YOUR own now then why are you still with HIM? Move on and do something for yourself, go back to school and get a degree it's never too late and there are alot of places you could turn to for childcare etc. don't waste any more time and don't make any excuses just leave him and do it now! Good luck....
2006-07-07 10:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by mslo25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest about this whole thing you knew how he was before you married him and before you got preg. the old saying you cannot change a man even though a man thinks he can change a women so i think the best thing for you to do is not divorce him but leave him move with parents or a friend to see if he changes if that don't work then divorce him just do not be to quick on the divorce things might work out GOOD LUCK
2006-07-07 09:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by robin488462000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have given him I'd say 15 chances to be a man and a daddy apparently from what you say He does not care to get help so YOUR RIGHT the best thing for you to do is to leave him behind and do not look back.
IF you would like to break the bad habit of getting with males like him here's what you do it worked for me and some of my Friends. 1. Stay single for 1 year. (have protected sex with no strings attached) 2. compare all of your relationships and see what they all have in common 3. AFTER you have been single for 1 year compare any man you get with to the men in your past and if any of the bad qualities exist RUN RUN RUN. as fast as you can away from him. One day you will wonder what in God's earth you seen in the type of man you were with before.
2006-07-07 09:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can i-m me or e-mail me if u want to. Leave that lazy man where he sits and find a place for you and the child. I have two kids and I am doing it all on my own. I left my lazy azz man where he sat in a motel room 11yrs. ago, he went home and cried on the shoulders of his sisters made me look bad, but I set them straight when I found out what he said. LEAVE THAT MAN.
2006-07-07 09:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like such a loser, especially since he doesn't want to work and all he wants to do is get high, now think about this.... are those the values you want your child to grow up with? Do you want your child to think whatever someone else can do it? I know I wouldn't I want my children to be independent and not rely on anyone, I want them to know that they don't need anyone to make them happy haveing someone is a luxury. You should understand that to..... you don't need you husband you may want him but you don't need him (especially this one) men are easily replacable at anytime just like a roll of toilet paper. Get rid of this loser and get on with your life. See if you can move with your mom and get away from him so when you do leave him he doesn't bother you. Good luck
2006-07-07 09:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all ready know what to do, do you really want that man to have influence on how your child thinks? find your strengh and leave as quickly as you can.
Good Luck.
2006-07-07 09:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋