I only can think about how fine and sexy my husband is, but he still thinks about other chicks every once in a while, why is it so hard for him to think only of me??????? I am a really beautiful girl (I think) Is this a problem or am I jealous?????
2006-07-07 02:43:55 · 25 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you're a little jealous. It's almost impossible to keep a man from thinking about or looking at other women. But remember YOU are the one he chose to marry. If you keep his interest he won't stray.
2006-07-07 02:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez, I dont know what the issue is. My husband thinks I'm very attractive, sexy, etc. I also find him sexy and attractive, etc. I find it to be a compliment that he checks out other girls, but CHOOSES to be with me because of who I am. I check out other guys. When you are married it doesn't mean you are cut off from the world around you.
However it would be different if he were making comments loud enough for the other women to hear or going up to women and trying to get their phone numbers. If he's just looking, I doubt you have anything to worry about.
Ask him to help boost your self-esteem by asking what he thinks about you. But don't over do it! If my husband doesnt compliment me and it's been a while, I'll just ask.
2006-07-07 05:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad part is, is that for most guys this is just how they are. Guys are NOT girls they don't think the same react, read into, or for the most part mentaly act the same as women. It makes it makes it easier to just think of them mentaly more as a pet- they just need food, sleep, exercise, and to be pet once in a while. Guys are really uncomplicated-when they say something or do something it for the most part is honest to who they are. Once you just think that guys are guys and girls are girls it is much easier to live with them. In your situation for the most part if he's still thinking of other girls, he just going to keep doing that because guys are all about sex, and thoughts of sex, things that turn them on, and so on. The tough part is that girls unlike guys have this overwhelming need to feel most of the the time special, and like they are the only one-guys not so much so they really don't identify. I hope anything i said helped. amy
2006-07-07 03:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by EDWIN M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a real problem like you suspect him of folllowing his mind? Men will always be boys, they willalways look at the menu but just as long as they dont order. It sounds like you may have a wild imagination,and life isnt always like the soaps on TV. Unless you suspect him of cheating all you are going to do is to beat your self up. Look at it this way,if you are as beautiful as you say, then whyll hes looking,there are guys out there looking at you, and girls check out the menu too or so Ive been told
2006-07-07 02:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are a really beautiful girl, but maybe you might be being a little bit niave , all men and women and some point in time think of being with someone else other than who they are with, it's human nature, are you going to tell me that you haven't seen a man go by once since you have been with this man that hasn't caught your attention for a moment? it wouldn't matter, I wouldn't believe you if you said no anyways so I don't know what to tell you, best of luck to you though
2006-07-07 02:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you from a male perspective. We all look at other women but that doesn't mean we are going to persue them so just relax but don't be to lax. You must remember one thing about keeping your man do everything you did to get gim to say I DO now you have to keep him saying I DON'T keep it SEXY don't get LAZY keep the spice in your marriage suprise him go to Victoria Secret and get something new and light up the candles and put on a show
2006-07-07 03:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by let_it_xhale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunaly this is normal. You see many years ago a way to make sure the race survived was for man to spread his seed as much as possible. While for women it was to look for a provider that would take care of her and the kids, even if the kids wern't his. This dosn't really fit into this day and age. But as long as he is loyal to you then don't worry about what he is thinking.
good luck!
2006-07-07 02:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay for him to notice another woman as long as he keeps the touching for your. You might be a little jealous but try to remember, just because he is on a diet, doesn't mean he can't look at the buffet.
2006-07-07 02:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you insist on controlling how his mind works?
As long as he treats you well, and with love and respect, there is nothing unhealthy about being able to appreciate the beauty in other people. Your relationship is not at risk.
2006-07-07 03:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by mb5_ca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are jealous and insecure. I mean how do you know he is thinking about other girls and not other men. Just kidding! If you don't stop your insecurity might make him think about other women or men. LOL
Good Luck!
2006-07-07 02:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by G P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋