please don't ignore me, i needed your advice badly! im in a confused situation with my ex, what should i do?

Question

Me and my bf broke up last May of this year. After he went abroad. And recently he calls me up and txting me saying that he still loves me and he still cares for me. I know that i still love him very much but still can't forget the pain that he caused me when he broke up with me saying he's getting along again with his ex (his long term girlfriend). Last night i can't believe what had happened...he is crying when he called me up and saying that he's getting married by next year when he get back in our country... and now they are already engaged! He say those words while he is crying! He keeps on telling me that he is still very much in love with me but just can't hurt the other girl's feeling... He told me that he is confuse of his situation. I don't know why he still say that he loves me despite of the fact that he can't let go of somebody else. Please help =(

Answer 1

listen doll, this guy is completely confused about what he wants. He obviously still has feelings for you that's setting his mind out of wonk, I think you should talk to him and tell him to move on because that's what you both need to be happy. You sound like a great girl and he realises this but you cant bring yourself down a level every time he feels emotional, if he's engaged tell him to focus and his situation is some what childish. Both of you need to move along for there to be a happy ending to this story.


let me know how it goes 0_0

Answer 2

well, I was in a similar situation and the only thing you can do is too go on with life the same you were before he called saying all those things that made your heart flutter. He has to deal with this his self, if he truly loves you and can't make the decision to leave her then he really doesn't why marry someone and your heart don't belong too them? In my case they just had a baby so it's still a possibility they could work out and what am I doing, moving on cause the pain will be even worse if you let him come back every time. Don't play second fettle to her or be his back up, if they have a year then he has a year to get it together but don't make it easy date, get new friends and don't be available all the time. Good luck stay strong.

Answer 3

Next time he calls....make it perfectly clear to him that you loved him at one time, but he made his choice. Tell him to stop calling you! It might be difficult for you to do this, but honestly, it's for the best. He left you, went abroad, and got engaged. Now he's getting married. He's afraid to hurt this girl, yet he doesn't think twice about calling you. Did it ever cross his mind that he might be hurting you by calling you (knowing how you still feel about him)? Be happy you're not the one he decided to marry....he'd probably be calling the other girl and telling her the same things. You have to move on. Someone else will come along that will treat you the way you should be treated.

Answer 4

If he really loved you he wouldn't have gotten engaged. He is scared and confused. Remind that things didn't work out between the two of you for a reason. If you want to be a friend and help him sort out his feelings go ahead, but don't get too closely involved with him(if you know what I mean). If he really loves you he needs to take time to sort out other feelings he has before asking you to come back into his life, make him wait- a long time, to make sure he knows what he wants this time.

Answer 5

Remember the pain you felt, and if you give him that chance to hurt you then you will feel that pain all over again. I think you should not answer the phone when he calls, and just forget about him. There are other guys, and if he has waited a while to talk with you again then why are you still waisting time on him. You need to date someone else, and clip all communication that you have with him. Do it now while you still have the chance.

Answer 6

Well He is Very Confused, He think he is in love with both of you, He need time to him self and need to stop Playing with both u'r minds..... Tell him to tell the girl that it's not a break up but it's just that he need to get his head on straight..... if he get maried to this gilr he will cheat on her all the time saying that he never really care for her when......... So Either way it's not u !! .. Let him know that if u want to put u'r self out there let him know that U r willing to wait ( if u r) till he find what he want to do cuz u Dont want to play this childish games with him and u dont want to feel hurt.....

Answer 7

he's confusing the whole world, if he loves you why he broke up for his ex gf with whom He's engaged,they will get married soon as he told you, so why he is calling you back,telling you that he still loves you ;cares about you, but he doesn't want to hurt the other girl,but hurting you is not a problem for him.although you still love him,throw all about him behind you,look forward,don't listen to him any more even he promised you with marriage.forget him,and always remember that he's causing you pain all the time.

Answer 8

I'm not sure I understand the problem. He hurt you, is marrying someone else and is allowing himself to be manipulated into doing something he seems to not want to do. There is nothing you can do in that situation except move on with your life. How can a marriage like that last? When it fall aparts, hopefully, you will be happy and content with whatever you will be doing at that time.

Answer 9

One thing is to say that you're in love and another thing is to be sincere. To be honest with you, I dont believe he's in love with you, if not, why would he want to hurt you and not the other lady? The earlier you forget him, the better for you. There was life for you before you met him and definitely life still continues after him. Learn to live your life without him dear

Answer 10

Some people just want to have it all. He seems to want both his ex and you in his life. But you do not deserve that.
It is difficult, but tell him that he has obviously decided that he wants to be with her, and that if the situation ever changes THEN and only then you might consider getting back together.
In the meantime, you have to ask him to leave you alone, and as difficult as it sounds now, you will get over him.
Don't let him play games with your heart.