my wife is having an affair i suspected her but never caught her untill she confess to me?

Question

what do i do we already have two lovely kids that we both love

Answer 1

I was in a similar situation and got divorced, the kids suffered period! Thinking back, I should have been more patient, relaxed and now 5 years later, I'd probably invite him over. Divorce is final for you but not for the kids.

Answer 2

First, I'm sorry that your wife got involved with someone else. I'm glad she confessed to you. Did she tell you why and how? Are you angry with her?
Please take your time because you both have time and effort already invested. This is an opportunity for the both of you to grow as people as thus strengthen your marriage beyond belief. It will not be easy but the rewards will be awesome.
Out of incredible hurt can come the purest strongest love a man and woman can know for each other. Forgiveness, understanding, rebuilding trust and a greater communication are essential to come into this love.
I wish the best for the both of you and your marriage.

Answer 3

1st let me say how sorry i am to hear your bad news things will work out for the best i am sure
as you have children this is always hurtful see the children are in the middle of it all how much you try and keep it away from them children are not silly They pick up on a alot
1st you got to ask your self could you live with your wife even if she has had another man in her life this is one big step because it is no good sayng yes i could live with her and forgive her but deep down could you?
the 2nd thing is does she want to stay or did she tell you because she wants you to leave ? if this is so what is the best thing you should do
go have a break from each other so you can both sort your heads out and see what you want
because the thing is you or your wife don't want to hurt the kids so you will have to sit down together and see what both your feelings are so then you can discuss this with your children but remember children are little humans treat them with respect and truth
they have a right to no what is happing if you decide to go your diff rent ways
good luck for your future
respect
shaz

Answer 4

You prepare yourself mentally....

Decide, what you want to do, do you want the kids, the house, the dog, the car?

1. who is leaving, you or her?
2. Is she testing you? ( what is she expecting from you) Maybe this is in her plan she doesnt love you anymopre and just wanst you out of the picture.

prepare yourself mentally ( worth repeating) There is a lot of pain and hurt feeling that you will have to deal with, keep your persepctive about life.

Try not to hate her, she is a sl*t she will try to sleep with you again...

once you are apart, make an appointmet for checkup at yoru local health facaility..

THIS woman has potentially brought STD's into your life get checked out....

THEN KICK HER AZZ TO THE CURB and move on... its not easy... but you cant live with a woman who would cheat on you...

the first thing she is going to cry is : sorry i made a mistake... I say screw you that wanst a mistake it was a choice.....

BUT the bottom line is leave, get out of this relationship asap...

personally i would fight for custody of the kids.. and have her azz paying me child support..

Answer 5

Did she confess out of her own free will or did you force it out of her? If she confessed out of her own free will, that means she regretted her action and felt guilty about the whole thing. You should forgive her and move on with life, that is if you are still in love. Everybody makes mistakes but more important is that they realise their mistake and willing to change and not to repeat the same mistake.

To forgive is easy but to forget is easier said than done. Do give it a try.

Answer 6

I think first you have to decide whether to try working it out or go for a divorce. If it is the latter, obviously you need evidence -- eventually the reality of money and materials will come in. If it is the former, you still need the confusion. So either way you need her to admit it.

Either way, you will still have to mentally preferred for the breakup.

I think your real job is to prefer yourself: for what you want, for the event things don't work out, for how to manage your children and tell them.

Lastly there is always a reason (whether it is your problem or her problem), there's always something (though not always rational). It is helpful to be honest about the reason.

Answer 7

Don’t act like stupid, wait and see, what is the point of suspecting her..? Its really stupidity, if you love her you should not suspect. What you do is, you call some girls to home who is close to you and talk to them nicely and your wife feel jealous on you and after couple of she will leak out her relationship with other guy (if she has). How are you suspecting..? Did you get any doubt while having XXX or you received or phone calls..?

Answer 8

My parents stayed together for us children and it was a big mistake. If she cheated on you once she will so it again. Find someone who loves you and share your children with your wife in a positive way. Don't use them as a weapon.

Once a cheat always a cheat! Talk to my ex. He cheated on me and his second wife and now just left the third.

Answer 9

You have a serious problem. Do you really think you will get the answer here? There is no correct or perfect answer. Two people have to make the best of a bad situation.

Answer 10

what is the reason that she confessed to you? She wants a divorce or is feeling really guilty and realises that she was disrespectfull and wants to make up? That's what you should think about first. Then you can either work it out or...