How to go further. Wife died. Only son,23, handicapped. No one to look after us.?

Answer 1

Get off you butt and deal with what life has dealt you, you have to learn to depend on yourself and no one else

Answer 2

What the heck is wrong with YOU, Jack???? Are you handicapped also??? Sounds like you and our son were dependent on your late wife to do everything for you. Get up off of your lazy butt and start being the man of the house. If you are healthy, you don't need anyone to "look after you"....you can wipe your own nose and clean up and cook for the both of you. Lord, what a whiney man!

Answer 3

There must be some social agencies to help with your son. Look them up in your phone book!!!! Also, you can make a sandwich for yourself, can you not??? Open a box of cereal??? Get off of your butt and do something. Or are you handicapped too???

Answer 4

I'm sorry ur wife died but r u looking for another wife or someone to help out?I'm sure u can hire someone to help about the house and a nurse if ur son needs one,and counseling for u,sometimes social services can help

Answer 5

Sorry to hear about your lost.

Look to the state for financial support - welfare, if you need it.
Look to the state for medical support - medicare, if you need it.
Look up Catholic Social Services for help around the house and for your son. They should be able to help out with something.
Also join a bereavement group for emotional support.
Look to God for spiritual support, peace, and comfort.

The best way to go on is to help yourself. Your son depends on you and so you must be the one to take care of him and yourself.

You can do it. Others have. You're no different. Things are tough but such is life.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I am truly sorry for your situation but it sounds as if you want someone else to do the hard work. Hire a maid or health professional.
Dont try and saddle another woman with your problems.
You didnt mention you wanted to find love..you just implied you are overwhelmed with the responsibility you are facing now. If so..seek assistance..dont try to sandbag a poor unsuspecting woman so she can do the work.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

You are feeling fear and some desparation. This is a severe problem and challenge.

Where do you live? What country?

Some general ideas :

* contact Lifeline or Salvation Army in the first instance, they can provide immediate support and referrals to the other help you need
* are you in contact with a church, call them.
* what other family or relatives are there nearby?

I hope some of this helps..

Peter

Answer 8

I'll tell you something for nothing, i bet your late wife would definitely not want to see you walowing in self pity, you know loosing someone close especially if they were your rock is damn hard but you know what you have to soldier on for the sake of your son, and yourself, you cant allow yourself to lay down and die as well. I lost my mother last year and it was so hard to come to terms with that, she was really a one off, it's still hard for me, but you know what i know she wouldn't want me to lay down and die along with her, she knew i would miss her terrible, but i still have to keep going, so dont you loose faith and all hope, you have to take over from your wife now, little do you know it you can do this, to be married to such a remarkable woman who took care of you and your son.....some of her strength over those years must have rubbed off on you to. Good Luck.

Answer 9

im so sorry !! but dont loose hope. perseverence is the key to success!! im sure u find a solution to the problem!