I have a female friend who is so stressed/depressed about being in a marriage in which she is incompatable that she has unexplained chronic illnesses all the time.
I don't know how to console her. I want to tell her to let herself let go of the stress and accept her marriage but if it is too far gone and endangering her health she should get out. I see her deteriorating because she is stagnating. What do I tell her? No one else will broach this subject with her because she is so proud.
2006-07-07 00:29:22 · 8 answers · asked by Ben Jammin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like she needs to get away, try a trial seperation.. and if she is happy then get a divorce.... A trial seperation should see if her health gets better...
2006-07-07 00:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her to get some professional help, she sounds like the state of her marriage is just a part of the state of her mental and physical health.
She might have underlying things that may also be causing her deterioration.
Let her know as her friend you aren't afraid to broach the subject, that you love and care about her and to get over herself, pride comes before a fall and I think it's even a sin. Be as hard on her as you have to be to get the help she desperately needs.
Good luck and she's lucky to have such a good friend.
2006-07-07 08:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like co-dependency to me. Get her a copy of "Co-dependent no more". Or you could broach the subject by asking her advice for a fictitious friend is a similar situation but no so similar that she would catch on. Just get her thinking....
She may never leave because believe it or not, unhappiness is all some people know. They may not be comfortable being happy. Good Luck.
2006-07-07 07:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Isabel C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have heart condition and i just get on with life i do my weights and push ups everyday and also martial arts,she has the fear of loosing her marriage it wasnt the right time for her to go ahead with someone who doesnt understand her health depression is very dangerous as a friend do the best u can to talk to her gently let her know u care is the best thing a friend can do if u want to further chat e-mail me at Vandamme_31@hotmail.com
2006-07-07 09:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by joey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kinds of stress can make you sick. Tell your friend to see a therapist and in the mean time try to get her to go for walks, its great for your body and most impresive your mind. Talk her into doing things she loves and it will help allieviate the stress.
2006-07-07 09:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her hubby must hav a good side.. if only one. let her see tht in him and patiently try to see how she and him cn compromise and learn each other..
if god had brought her to it... he'll surely take her through it.
u r a really good friend
2006-07-07 09:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by damain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MYOB until she asks for your adice. She is mourning and people do that in different ways.
2006-07-07 07:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she should kill her husband and then kill you aswell since you both are men.
2006-07-07 12:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋