my friend Mike is really needs help... and I need you to help me!
he's been doing drugs for a while (mostly cocaine, but he'll do anything), and drinking a lot... when he's not high, he's hung over!
he's also self-injurying,he cuts his arms with razorblades. he tried suicide twice last year, but we found him and took him to the hospital.
He lost his girlfriend, family, even the people he used to call "friends"...only i and my friend sam stayed with him, and we didn't give up on him yet... we never will!!
the worst part os that we are trying to help him, but he doesn't let us! he says he's got everything under control, but that's what he's been saying for 2 years!!
how can i help him?? what should i do to convince him that he needs help and that he doesn't need that stuff to be happy!
thank you so much!!
2006-07-07 00:25:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the truth is that i'm not sure if i can do this anymore, i mean, i wanna help him, but i can't.
i've been paying his rent for 5 months cause he spends all his money on dugs. my bf left me cause he says i spend more time with Mike than with him!!
Mike's now a fan of heroine... i honestly don't know wich one is worst, cocaine or heroine... they're both bad and he's taking both of them...
maybe he should get out of here... i mean, Brooklyn isn't exactly a drug-free place.
i'm so worried about those suicidal tendencies... i don't wanna come home and find him laying unconscious
on the floor again... that image will never get out of my mind ...
i talked to him, told him that he is hurting everybody and that he needs to stop it!! he cried a lotm said he was sorry for making me suffer and promised to stop.i hope he means it. He also said i should be living my own life, and that i should walk away because he only wants the best for me.
2006-07-11 22:02:47 · update #1
but he's the guy i grew up with! i've known him since i was 6 years old!! we tell each other everything! he's my best friend an it breaks my heart everytime i look at him, but i can't leave him!!
as i'm writing this, he's sitting on the floor, sweating a lot. he says he's in a lot of pain too. i guess these are normal if you're trying to stop taking heroin. i wish i was going through that instead of him, he's suffered enough! i'm scared he's not strong enough... i told him that he should get professional help, but he refuses to get it!
he's been cutting his arms a lot more frequently now... i think that's his way of distracting himself and stop thinking about cocaine and heroin...
life sucks...
2006-07-11 22:09:48 · update #2
I feel sad that you are going through all of this heart ache over your friend Mike, and happy for Mike that he has a true friend such as yourself whom cares so very much about him.
I don't know where you live, or the law's in your area, however the best thing that you can do is to get Mike some professional help, Drug Treatment Program, and also Mental Health
Mike is so rapped up with issues, that he is most likely oblivious to the fact of what a true friend you are, and the drugs are his escape from his problem, he will continue to return to them until he has delt with the real issue, and he cannot deal with the real issue until he gets off of them.
Bless you, I am proud to see such a great person as yourself here on yahoo answers who is self sacrificing.
Do what ever it takes to get Mike help, talk to many people give full names, dates of occurrences, and as much detail as you can regarding his problem as you see it, so that they have a good frame of reference in which to approach Mikes problem, and this will also solve your dilemma.
2006-07-07 00:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Thoughtfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give you and your friend a lot of credit for sticking around and supporting him... That's the nicest thing anyone could ever do... As for helping your friend Mike, it's a tough one... I mean if you've told him to stop doing all the things he does, and continues to do so, even after you told him to stop... Than the chances of him ever stopping are slim... But from the looks of it, you really love your friend and would do anything to keep him alive, and well... You could continue telling him, or showing him the health hazards that happen, or you could seek help from local authorities... It might not seem like the friendly thing to do, but it's the only thing that will save him (or at the least try too)... But just keep hoping... And I really hope that your friend stops... Take care...
2006-07-07 07:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by keau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will NEVER convince him. People like your friend have only one goal in life and that is to satisfy THEMSELVES no matter whom it hurts. They will lie, cheat, steal, sell everything they have, sell everything YOU have just to get their next high. He will NEVER stop until he hits rock bottom. As much as I hate to tell you this, YOU and SAM are being used as his "safety net". He will abuse you also eventually. It's not a matter of you not giving up; it's a matter of you being used and sapped of every drop of righteous love and attention you can possibly give to him. He will suck you dry....then continue with this behavior. You want to really help him??? Get YOURSELVES some professional help in dealing with junkies. You can't do this alone. He's not concerned about you guys...he's only concerned about himself. So, if I were you, I would point-blank tell him you're not his shoulder to cry on anymore; that when he gets straight, he can be your friend; that he is nothing but a drug consumption machine and that he needs help. Maybe he'll let you intervene. Until he does, your hands are pretty much tied. But still, get help for yourselves. And God Bless.
2006-07-07 07:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant really do much. He needs to admit he's got a prob and then admit he needs help before he'll take even one baby step toward rehabilitation. Is a long and painful journey and he will likely let you down many times... are you Strong enough to see it through? I really hope so cos it sounds like he needs you, even if he cant see it yet. Even if you cant get him to see someone, go and seek professional help yourself, you'll be surprised at how much insight they can give you
2006-07-07 07:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by kandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human mind and soul says to help a person in need and we should try our best... but if you've tried your best and he's just not willing to help himself, then just let go and let fate decide what his destiny is. You're not him parents, you're not his girlfriend (or are you). You can only do so much to let him see the light, but if he doesn't, then he never will.
You have your own life. As long as you've honestly tried your best, then move on with your life and let fate take over...
2006-07-07 07:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to sit down with him and listen tell him he is not going anywhere until he talks to you and sometimes guys cry let him cry get it out hold him so he know that someone cares and keep buggin him until he gets the help he needs he might get so angry with you but he needs the help just go with him through this even go with him to like meetings and stuff let me tell i have exprienced this and this helped my friend a lot and the cuting thing its a thing where he is trying to express himself and feels that no one is listening so thats why im telling u to sit him down no matter what and tell him to express him self!
2006-07-07 07:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by spaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first make him see that he doesn't have it under control. EX.video tape the way he acts when he is under the influence, then show it to him later and he might understand
then search on the Internet and find a group that could help him that's close to where you live.
2006-07-07 07:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sailor Jupiter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't have much idea about this but I think that moving to a place like a countryside or some where far from the city might help
2006-07-07 07:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is on a path to self destruction - and moving quickly along it as you well know.
He needs drug treatment - foremost but more importantly he needs some sort of counseling - he is deeply disturbed and should be under a doctors supervision. He needs psychiatric help from either a good psychiatrist or sociologist.
2006-07-07 07:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by drewwers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is serious and life threatening.
Your friend has multiple chemical addictions and has shown suicidal tendencies.
He needs psychiatric and other medical help now.
This problem must be overwhelming you, but understand its bigger than you and he together.
You love and care for him, thats great, but now he needs more than that..
Peter
2006-07-07 07:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋