this is the most important part in life and i wonder what a big gambling we need to play with it
2006-07-07 00:08:27 · 20 answers · asked by joy_csharp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Say you date someone for years before getting married and you are sure they are the one. You've done pre-marriage counseling and asked all the questions about kids, location, jobs etc. So you get married...It is a gamble only in the fact that people change,your points of views change, goals change. This does not mean divorce if you are not changing with them.
The trick is compromise and compassion. You can never know what will happen tomorrow or next year or a decade from now. All I can hope in my own marriage is that my husband and I will grow together. If our goals become different, it's knowing that one of the reasons I married him is for our communication skills and our problem solving that is a comfort.
2006-07-07 00:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 17⤊ 2⤋
Sort of...but marriage is part of life and has been around for thousand of years. Not all turn up bad. Well, some just happen to be unfortunate. Just like driving a car.. i cannot promise you that i will not be involved in any accident. Even you tried your best to be a goood driver, it just happen. Take a gamble...marriage may not be a bad thing for everyone.
2006-07-07 00:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by VonSmile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a gamble...its 2 people coming together witha commitment to be there for eachother....
There are people who date eachother for a long time and get married...still its not successful....
But u could say an arranged marriage is all stupid where the bride and the groom hardly know each other.....But i guess one way thats the best.....cause u dont have to hear from the wifey "Hey u were so Romantic ,caring b4 marrying me "......."things have changed s much now" etc..etc....
Marriage is the willingness to share ur life with ur partner....find a true meaning of love,make a whole new meaning of life.....
One has to work on tehir respective marriage to keep it strong as years pass by.......always find new ways to love ur better half.....
2006-07-07 00:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by AB12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all unless it's a love marriage. Love Marriage is a Gamble coz. u never know when the love n affection will disappear and somtimes u may have to repent n regret for your actions.
Take Care
2006-07-07 00:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by viper4in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you gamble, in general, you have to put up a stake and take a chance, right? Same thing with marriage. You put up your heart...your vulnerability...and you take a chance of getting hurt. HOWEVER....if you win, you hit the JACKPOT and are able to have a loving companion. You can't find love if you're not willing to play the game and be vulnerable. If you don't win...you go on until you're ready to play again.
2006-07-07 00:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR RIGHT.....
these people who say its not a gamble... are seeing life through rose colored glasses...
Their spouse cheat on them and they are the ones who will want to work it out 2-3 times... I say bull crap...
Marriage is a gamble........ some relationships win some lose... it takes two to make a marriage last, one to break a marriage...
2006-07-07 00:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a 50/50 gamble these days but increase the odds with truth between you and your partner and you and yourself before you tie the knot. Love is not enough and lust isn't close to enough.
Factors:
Love #1
Attraction #2
Similar interests/morals #3 (compatability)
Money (at least finacial stability) #4
2006-07-07 00:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ben Jammin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE LIFE is a big gamble !!!
You take your chances of being one of the 300,000 people killed each year in a car accident every single day...
Yet you jump right in the car and go without ever a thought of that...
2006-07-07 00:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's a gamble. However, you can increase the odds in your favor by being open and honest, getting pre-marital counseling, and truly making the commitment to stay together, even through the rough times. (Exception: abuse of any kind--verbal, physical, substance, etc.)
2006-07-07 02:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience, it's a BIG gambling. i wasn't lucky at all and i can't do anything because a baby came into picture. keep your eyes opened and if you feel something is not all right, have the power to say no.
2006-07-07 02:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by sunrise19ro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋