He tells me that since he loves me, that i should show him that i do to by doing things with him but im scared to, i dont think im ready!
2006-07-05 22:14:17 · 23 answers · asked by ••Bubbles•• 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Boys have been using that same tired line to try to manipulate and pressure girls into having sex with them for many, many years, I mean really, I'm not kidding, word for word. "If you really loved me you would show me by letting me have sex with you."
If he really loved you he would not want you do do anything that could possibly distress you or cause any harm to come to you.
The essence of love is to care about the other persons needs and welfare. The fact that he is trying to pressure you to have sex with him proves that instead of loving you he only wants to use you for his own selfish sexual pleasure. You are better off without him and look for a boy that cares about other people and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
There are many guys out there that will treasure you.
2006-07-05 23:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I have some great advice for the first time. Don't do it until you are married! If you are scared, maybe that is because you aren't ready. If your boyfriend is asking and you aren't sure, maybe that is because this is a big decision and you cannot take it back. Three months is a really short time to be deciding if you want to give your body to someone else. That is your body, and it is a precious gift. Don't treat yourself with disrespect and do something that you aren't ready for. I know this sounds preachy, but take it from someone who knows. You will never get your virginity back. Never.
2016-03-27 05:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to get a new line. It's the oldest trick in the book. If he loves you he will wait until you are ready. If he pressures you he has no respect for you. If you are not ready, do not do it. Once you have sex then you can't go back to holding hands. He is going to want sex all the time.Are you ready for this. If he really cares for you he will have no problem waiting. If not then find someone else. The first time should be when YOU are ready and with someone who respects you....just say not yet!
2006-07-05 22:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give in he doesnt mean it! He just wants u to put out then he'll leave u. This is what happens to most girls cuz every time u have a bfrnd u're "in love",if he loves u he'll wait. Think about all the girls he might have been with , think about it vey hard there's alot of STD'S going around!
P.S. I'm 19 and already on my 5th prcgy.
2006-07-05 22:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by niteshifter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he'd stay with you if you wouldn't sleep with him for several more years - say that you're going to wait until you're ready and you don't know how long that will be. If the answer's no, you know how far his 'love' stretches. Don't give in - you'll regret it. Tell him to stop asking and that you can love him without that. He's trying to manipulate you - tell him you'll ask him when you're ready and that's final.
2006-07-05 22:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, Its your life and you decide. Important how well do you know your boyfriend? I am sure you know better than all of us here. Ask him if we need to take the relationship to the next level what is his committment. Also does both families know of this relationship or is it still hidden.
If you have answers to all this, then go ahead. Else dump him and lookout for somebody interesting who likes you more than your body.
2006-07-05 22:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't got get pressured in doing anything you dont want to. I he really loves you he will understand and wait until you are ready.
2006-07-05 22:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the next level is marriage, NOT sex. If he loves you so much, he should respect you enough to not force sex on you. Sex can equal baby. The last thing you want is a surprise baby because he pressured you into sex. So tell him the next step is a wedding ring, not a condom!!!
2006-07-05 22:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto on the Answeres Addicts answer,
Keep it real, star asking him about things like having children getting married, find out if He's just after the one thing, and if he is, ditch him fast..
make no mistake about this,,,desperate guys are dangerous in the wrong circumstances.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-07-05 22:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Old Wise One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur not ready 4 sex,dont do it.true love waits.and ur only 15.if he really loves u, he'll stay w/ u.but some guys r so shallow that they would leave girls because of that. dont give in to him. im sure he'll understand.
good luck
2006-07-06 03:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by lexa (: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋