is it normal to hate ur mom?

Question

i mean my mom is sooo uptight and whenever i try to make a conversation with her she acts like she doesn't care. and she's always forcing me about my studies. it's not like i'm stupid or sumthin. i have tuition every day. i need a break. she always thinks of negative things about me. i'm the bad daughter and she always compliments my friends or her friend's daughter. sometimes i cry.

Answer 1

yes it is normal to feel hate towards you mom, under times like this...its like having the battle of wills, you want to do your own thing and she wants you to succeced in life, thats why she is on your tail so much. she may have a poor way of showing it. just do the best that you can, in about 20 years you might change your feelings towards her.

Answer 2

I don't think it's possible to HAtE your mother. One thing you can do is sit and think of how Different your life would be if you didn't have a mom. Ok! You'll probly say that it would be better. But If you really think about it, it wouldn't be any better. You would feel guilty for hating her if you wake up one day and found out she was gone. The feelings you have towards your parents are very complicated. When you don't get what you want you tend to think you hate them but deep down you really don't. Just consider yoursel lucky to HAVE a mom who yells at you. There are so many kids out there who wish they had a mom who yelled at them and stuff like that. That's just the way moms are. Try to forget about all the bad things and concentrate on the most important things. Love your mom! Remember the saying " You don't know what you have until it's gone "

Answer 3

I think you should have a good heart to heart with your Mom. Talk to her, tell her exactly what you're feeling, how you need a break from all the pressure of having tuitions everyday, and how she should understand the need to have faith in you. And believe me, even if she acts like she doesn't care, she really really does. Your Mom is under the impression that she's doing the best for you, and although most times, it really does benefit you, this time you have a valid reason and should just talk to her about it. You sound smart and should definitely be able to handle a situation like this! Good Luck!

Answer 4

When you say you have 'tuition' every day is that after school tuition that you have to help with your studies?
If it is, then you mother is right in forcing you to do your studies, because she is paying extra money to the tutor to coach you after school is out.
However, I do think he is wrong in emphasizing the negative things about you and complimenting your friends or their daughters in front of you. That is just plain rude.
I do you have a father or an uncle or Aunt or someone you can talk to about this? They might be able to talk to her and point out to her that she is hurting you.

Answer 5

I can relate - my mom was like that too - put me down in front of people all the time, and then complimented my friends or everyone else but me. I tried to talk to her but she wouldn't listen - so I wrote her a letter and mailed it to her - she read it and said she didn't realize she was doing it.

So, maybe you should try talking to her and if that doesn't work, write her a letter and tell her exactly how you feel, don't hold anything back!!

Good Luck!

Aloha!

PS - My mom stopped doing it for a few days, then started back at it - so I moved out. I hope your mom is a little better than mine!!

Answer 6

Not suprised U cry.
All sounds a bit unfair 2 say nice things about every1 else but U!
U've gotta sit Mum down & have a good heart-2-heart.
Tell her how she's making U feel & U've told other people & they think it V UNFAIR!
What's her problem & how can U help her put it right?
Parents never know the true extent of the damage they do 2 their children by having favourites!
Tell her it's got 2 stop B4 she drives U away.

Answer 7

It sounds like a time out might be in order for the both of you, followed by some family counseling.

And by the way, "it's not like i'm stupid or sumthin" UMMM...were you kidding there? Because if not, your Mom has one more thing to gripe about.

Answer 8

Oh:(
Do not hate anybody. Especially your parents, sisters, brothers. Whatever they say they love us..
My mum do the same thing. I know I am a hard-to-control girl. But I did not do anything making them unhappy or shamefull. Even she says good words to my brother he is not much succesfull like me.
She says me that I will never get well with people (my husband, his parents, my friends, etc.). But she does not know how many people love me and I have very good friendships.
I had talked to her that I do not like what she is saying to me. I told her that I am not such a bad girl, but I am afraid of being a such person that she says too much to me.
( There is a psychological truth that if you are said to be clever (for example), you will get cleverer by time. and silly (for example) you will get sillier by time.) etc....
( I belive in something that might not be correct.. If I have fun of a person about her/his psychal or mental, or emotional being, I (or my relatives or children) will have the same being.

Answer 9

dont worry.its normal.u have somethings to do dear.the first thing is sit with her and tell her about ur feelings,ur anger,the things that make u cry when she does it.she will understand.belive me[every mother love her daughter whatever she say and whatever she does]she will try to stop these habits.anyway she is doing it for ur happiness dear,so dont hate her,think of it in this way :"my mom is forcing me about my studies,why,because she loves me and want me to be the best"..
every thing she is doing now to make u the best tommorow and u hate it,u will regret every seconde when u r old that u didnt thank her for doing all of these things.go now and talk to her bout ur feeling.go

Answer 10

No.
You may feel so now because things are just not right now.
Remember, your mother may also have STRESS.
She may know that she has a duty to keep you on the right path, but don't really have too much time or knowledge to do so efficiently or to please you in doing so.
Just the same, the thing here is to time her.
Timing is very important in life in general.
Time her, to acquire the correct time to speak to her.
Another thing, always remember that you can also help your mother.
Try to connect with her.