I have been married for 6 years. Before the marriage I was seriously involved with another man for over 3 years. We both ended up going our separate ways. He is now married to a woman he married after 3 months simply because she was pregnant. I have recently started talking to him by email. I have never forgotten him even though we have been apart for 8 years. I truly believe I still love him and always will. How do I get him to reveal any true feeling he has for me. I am thinking about going to see him. He lives 2 hours away. I would appreciate any input.
2006-07-05 21:30:30 · 7 answers · asked by sweet cheeks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i say don't try to meet him or contact him, seems your married life has been boring and unsatisfying that u have started going back through old files, why didn't u two get married if u were so much in love?? what makes u sure he married the other girl because she was pregnant?? maybe he loves her??? i think there are innocent people involved here aka, your hubby, his wife and child.. try to bring life to your marriage first and think about it thorougly before ruining ur life for nothing that is ground
2006-07-05 21:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, to find out how he feels about you, JUST ASK HIM!! I know that sounds silly, but if you ask us guys a question, we will answer it... just be clear as to what you are asking. But really, what does it matter how he feels about you, you're married!!
About going to see him - The fact you're actually considering driving 2 hours to see him is not cool - if you were going as a friend or with your husband, then that's one thing - if you go alone behind your husband's back - you're going to end up hurting your husband and it could end your marriage.
I guess you have to decide which is more important - hanging onto fragments of a past relationship OR letting go and moving forward with your husband.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-07-05 21:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. But the bottom line is both he and you are married. How would you feel if your husband did this to you? This is especially unfair since there are children involved. If it is truly meant to be, maybe some day, in some way you will be able to reconnect, but not when there are wives, husbands, and most importantly innocent children involved.
2006-07-05 21:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by evil_kandykid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea to take it any further than what you have. In fact, I think you should stop emailing him. I think it's entirely possible to love more than once, or to at least have feelings for more than one person. I DON'T, however, think it's a good idea to act upon those feelings with more than one person. You'll only end up hurting your husband, and BOTH loves will be tainted, because neither of them will have the full attention that they deserve.
2006-07-06 19:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both are married, are you willing to take responsibility for two broken marriages and maybe even having a worse relationship with this 8 years past relationship, better reevaluate your priorities, this is a very touchy subject and is very morally wrong, be prepared for repercussions from society involvement, unless you are prepared to move far away, and have no further contact with other person, i would not do it! if you do get divorces first!
2006-07-05 21:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think before going to see him , you should talk to him more through email. tell him how you feel on email just a little bit. just to see his reply and if its good then definetly go see him. but if not. it wasnt meant to be.
all things come out through the light
good luck!
2006-07-05 21:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by trust_love_believe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband...the stay clear of this other guy.
2006-07-05 21:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋