my relation with my fiance has become hell.....we both dont trust each other..we both r not happy with each other...yet we both dont want to end this relation.....i think y should i end it ..........my fiance thinks .....y should he end it.............there seems no way out.......coz of this our families r suffering.......there r hell lot of misunderstandings...which cannnot be solved from both the ends.......whatever i think i have proof for tht.....but when i ask him he just deny eveyrhitng..........n may be its vice versa...my fiance also thinks he has some solid proof against me that i m cheating or something like that...but i havent done anything..nor can he have any proof......still he claims .......now its been months that we have talked nicely to each other....every single chat or talk is ful of abuses......its getting intolerable day by day...coz of this our careers r gng to suffer......donno what to do now.....?
2006-07-05 21:11:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-07-05 21:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by my_bleww_eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How immature. I guess both of you enjoy hurting each other cause you cannot call what you're putting each other through love. What exactly is a relationship without trust, care, consideration, love and so on? I don't think you two feel for each other what I just mentioned above and much more otherwise your cruelty of going on with a relationship that clearly has no love and has no future is a waste of time.
You are not even married and you're acting like this what about when you get married don't you think it will get worse? Are you up for sleepless nights and so forth? Make an adult relationship decision - and if you decide to be in the relationship then continue live with the consequences. Suppose you are right and your fiance is cheating on you if he infects you with HIV then what will you say? Will you only catch a wake up call once that happens or what? Think about it. You're going through the suffering because you're letting him treat you that way.
Don't know what to do? Leave!
2006-07-06 05:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe relationships must be based on trust, and since the two of you seem to be lacking any trust for each other, there is no relationship.
Back-paddle, end the relationship. You will thank yourself 5 years from now. He is not worth exerting your energy nor expending the limited time you have in this life playing private eye games.
It really doesn't matter if he is cheating or not, either way something deep in your gut is telling you not to trust him, listen to your intuition. Relationships really shouldn't be as difficult as this one sounds. I'm in a wonderful 13 year relationship, and we have NEVER felt like it was work.
2006-07-06 04:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mesa P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel. My last relationship was absolutely the same as yours. It is terrible how you guys treat each other. No trust at all and whenever you talk you end up fighting.
you should sit down and take a piece of paper and write down why are these things happening. Do you still see yourself with him after ten years. Write down how you feel when you are still toegther with in 2010 and see what comes out.
I wish you all the best and whatever happens me strong
2006-07-06 05:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by nsms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what he think is as long as you know you are not doing what he says you are then that's what matters as for him doing things well hes not going to admit anything so don't nag him or accuse him cause it just feeds the fire! if you are engaged and cant even talk without arguing then it is a waste of your time to keep up because without communication there is no future in any type of relationship whether it be romantic, family , or work its just not possible and one of the golden rules in love is to trust so if its not goingg either way then its not worth being miserable for and how are you goin to plan a wedding if you cant even talk about normal everyday thing?
2006-07-06 04:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by kartoon529 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there! umm i think the relationship between you too is doomed. if your not happy with each other then why keep going? stop here before everything break down. You could move on and find somebody that could make you happy and same for him unless you guys still love each other so badly you could go get counseling or something but my advice is move on. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 04:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and what are you really waiting for?? if the realtionship is so bad, why don't u just end it?? u say it is hurting u, him and everyone else. are u waiting to just get married then abuse each other and get divorced??? i think it is better to end it now rather than to wait until u get married and have kids who have to pay the price of a dommed relationship
2006-07-06 04:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why aren't u breking up again? Sounds like yall are acting like kids, someone needs to be the grounup and end it.
2006-07-06 04:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This so-called relationship is going nowhere fast.End it now before someone gets hurt really bad.
2006-07-06 04:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..do you enjoy beating your self with a stick? If it's THAT bad..end it now! Life is too short to waste in anger.......
2006-07-06 04:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up.
You can't have a relationship without trust.. once that's gone it's over.
2006-07-06 04:14:26 · answer #11 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋