Long story, will try to keep it short as possible. my BF & i have a friend. i intorduced her to him. We both started out liking her. i have come to know a lot about her that i dislike & because of those things i have come to dislike her. But my BF still likes her. So i am nice to her & she has no idea that the things she has done/does bother me & have changed my feelings for her. i do this so that his friendship with her won't be hurt.
Tonight i found out that she & her kids commited a crime. Not a major one, but enough that it REALLY bothered me. So i turned her & her kids (grown kids) into CrimeStoppers. And being an idiot i told my BF. Now he is pissed at me. Was i wrong to turn her in before talking to him? i probably would have turned her in anyway even if he didn't like the idea. Does that make me a bad person? Why is he so mad? He thinks i am jealous of their friendship, & in the past i have been. But this is not about Him. It's about her breaking the law. What do i do now?
2006-07-05 20:38:34 · 8 answers · asked by purple dove 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What's right is right. If someone he loved was a victim of a crime would he want the perp turned in? Of course. Let her be accountable for her behavior. Why would you want someone of questionable character close to you in your life? You shouldn't have to lie to preserve a healthy relationship. Put your cards on the table, the truth will set you free.
2006-07-05 20:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you probably did the right ingredient through telling her, and that i have self belief that once this blows over, she'll be able to maintain in mind that it replaced into out of have self belief that you informed her. That being suggested, until eventually you probably did not let us know the completed tale, it really is sounds like she's contained in the incorrect, not you. you pick to make certain she is acquainted with that you probably did not do some thing incorrect, and what you probably did do replaced into merely a mistake. She's of route damage, so provide her time. at the same time as she's waiting to refer to you lower back, obviously tell her you're sorry and also you adore her, and ensure she is acquainted with the completed tale. i'm not a flora woman, yet when she is, perhaps provide her a rose or her fashionable flower. merely not a bouquet, because they say "i did some thing incorrect". unmarried flora say 'i love you." i'm sorry if i'm not a lot help... solid success.
2016-11-05 23:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll its a very cliche line , but whatever has happenned has happennned , u cant undo it. i think ur bf ws just initially pissed about u not telling him, and she being a friend and all tht. but if he really loves you, i think he will realise that it was all for good becoz as u said it was against the law. well... but next time i think it would be better ifd u dint interfere with things like these, especially when they have such relations with people you know.
see because such acts show ur bf, how much u can be trusted, he dosent know that you dint consider her as a close friend. so to him to you can turn in even ur close friends or even him for that matter. such incidents make the guys lose trust.... i think u have to work on tht one.. and besides no one s perfect , so in future no nosy business:)
2006-07-05 20:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by ishojah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the future it is better to mind one's business. Her crime was probably based upon what you heard, not what you seen. However, now since you made a decision, you must take responsibility for that decision. Things won't be too cool for you right now, but I am sure over time things will get back to normal.
2006-07-05 20:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its like this wot u did was totally correct coz law is 4 every1 well the thin is u shud ve told ya bf bt under this circumstances i dnt think he would belive u @ that moment so let d time solve this coz if she provd guilty ur bf shud understand u its nt bout d person who caught her bt wot she has done well ask ur bf 2 belive u as he belives her and remember u rnt a bad person dnt go argue with him n make ur relationship 2 a disaster let d time prove u right try 2 patient dnt worry everythin will b fine
2006-07-05 20:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_angle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he got so mad i would ask him if he's slept with sorry thats my first thought. Then i would tell him to get over it she broke law it was your duty as a good citizen to turn her in.. Way To Go!
2006-07-05 20:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by mourningdove73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't have turned them in. If you did, you shouldn't have told your boyfriend. Since you did tell him, the best you can do is say that you don't like her, say why you don't like her, and say that whatever she did was just the last straw. Good luck.
2006-07-05 20:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by presidentofallantarctica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to help a criminal, dump him. i had a similar situation. but remember. you are judged by the company you keep
2006-07-05 20:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by redeye069 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋