What age did you put your child in daycare?

Question

Im terrified to put my 3 month old in one

okaaaayyy anniemay...i luv my baby and I am a stay at home mom beside the fact that im a college student and i have to go to school...wassup wit the questions?

I really don't want to put off one or two days of school when I can be starting my career by the time she's in elementary. By the way my mom watches her while im doing so. Someone also mentioned a private home....i think these are just as bad...a couple of months ago here where I live a mother went to go pick up her baby and she was damn near blue in the crib. She later died in the hospital

I really don't want to put off one or two days of school when I can be starting my career by the time she's in elementary. By the way my mom watches her while im doing so. Someone also mentioned a private home....i think these are just as bad...a couple of months ago her where I live a mother went to go pick up her baby and she was damn near blue in the crib. She later died in the hospital

i also am having pressure from her father about me needing to start work..but little does he know im not :)

Answer 1

Never. I wasn't clear on what you wrote--you said you're a stay-at-home parent, then said you're in school. Are you doing online courses? If you need some time to yourself, it is better for your child if you have a babysitter in another part of your home while you work.

Listen to *yourself*; if you are terrified to put your baby into daycare, that should tell you something...

Answer 2

My heart goes out to you. I was scheduled to go back to work when my daughter was 3 months old but I never found daycare. I'm still on lists but at this point I feel things happen for a reason. My heart would have broken. I am working part time when my husband can be home with her. We are making it work although I'm not going to lie and say it's been easy financially.
This is how I look at it now. If there's any way that you do not have to put her in daycare then don't. Your baby will only be a baby once. Enjoy her/him now, there will be plenty of opportunities to finish school and make money when she's/he's older. There's nobody that can care for her/him right now like you can. 3 months is to young, there's no benefit to her. Wait until she's/he's about 6-9 months then put her/him in part time it will be great for her/him to be around other children, she/he will enjoy it. Think of what's truly best for your baby right now.

Answer 3

Putting ur child in daycare has its pros and its cons. I have 2 girls, my older child has learned alot i mean good and bad things she learned how to eat by herself how to potty her numbers ABC's ,songs how to speak english and spanish , but she has had many mood swings she seems to through alot more tantrums and be more aggresive towards my 1 yr old. Sometimes I wonder if she was mistreated at a time because when she's mad she freaks me out by saying or yelling things that not even i or my husband say,.I think its alot better to take care of ur own kids cuz nobody loves them like u, u never know what the person whom u trust can do to ur kids, dont worry about money cuz there alot of govt help, id rather have my kids healthy and not tramatized than having some cash , i know any mother who really luvs their children thinks the same way.

Answer 4

personally if you have the choice between a daycare and private care go with the private care (babysitter) I was a single mother at the time I had my son and I had to place him in childcare it was awful! I looked around and searched for good places even the best places, but sometimes there isn't always the money for "the best" places so not having to settle I chose a place that had the "good reputation" well, come to find out they were not so good after all!! I picked up my son one day and he had another childs pacifier in his mouth (I thought I would lose my mind int hat place!) and when I contrfonted to ladies that worked there about it she just came me some stupid answer like she didn't know it wasn't his and when I looked around I saw my sons pacifier in the other childs mouth and when I (gently) took it fromt he child I wanted so badly to shove it in the womens face and tell her to READ THE NAME on it!! YES!, it had my sons name on it... and another time (yep, same place) I went to pick him up and his face was so nasty with snot and food I wanted to go postal!!! I was like Ohhh h*ll no!!!! my son was sick from that place!! PLEASE be careful of daycares! some of the people that watch over your child just don't care! and as for a private sitter KNOW that person VERy well... even private people are just as sick! Honey, if you have a choice take your child to a relative or wait until they can talk so they can telly ou when or if they being mistreated. and one more thing... also be careful with daycares... My son also started to pick up other habits of the other kids like throwing an out right full blow falling out on the floor kicking and screaming crossing his arms FIT! and you know whatI did to break that habit real quick? I got down on that floor and whooped his butt! that was the fastest habit I have ever seen someone kick! and that was without rehab!

Answer 5

As you should be! Why would you ever entrust your precious child to the dangers of a day care center? Why won't you be your child's mother? why do you want to abandon your child?
If you didn't want it, why didn't you allow it to be adopted to a loving 2 parent family who would love and raise it themselves rather than farming it out to strangers in a day care to raise.
It's not too late to have your child adopted. Consider it, the child would be better off with a Mother 24 hours a day, not a part time mother.
Then put OFF college until the child is 7 or 8 and you can go to school while the kid is in school.
My niece was killed in Day Care, she was 5 months old. Dropped by an over worked teenage caretaker. it's too close to home to see anyone else take unnecessary steps to farm out the most important thing at the time the child needs Mom the most. My sister suffers so much from her loss & I can only hope it doesn't happen to another.
Put off work, college and everything but raising your child.
Sorry if I came down hard, but it's so painful to see infants in daycare now.

Answer 6

I think if you need to put your child into daycare then you need to find a good one with a great reputation. Go visit it.. Look around see if the other children look happy. See if you can pop in uninvited at anytime. If not that is one of the first clues not to put your child there. Do the children look clean and cared for? Are they licensed to take care of children? Are they doing things with the children or just letting them run around. These are all things that you will need to consider. I hope this helps you. It is never easy leaving your child with anyone but if one wants to work or go to school you need to. good luck .

Answer 7

If you are needing to return to work, I would suggest finding someone that you can really trust. It is an extremely difficult transition returning to work, especially if this is your first child.

Private in home facilities are best, if you can find them.
Take your baby with you to the interviews.. see how your baby responds to your potential day care provider. Babies and children are excellent judges of character, so trust your babies instincts!

I had to return to work when my youngest was 4 weeks old, and it was the most difficult thing I've ever done.
But at the time, I trusted my provider to give him the same care I would if I could be home with him.
Good luck!

Answer 8

I didn't put my daughter into nursery till she was 2 1/2 years old. Why have a baby to put it into daycare so young, you miss out on so much. Imagine picking them up from daycare to be told you missed out on their first word/step. Why do you need to put your baby in childcare so young?

Answer 9

my son was about that age when i had to put him in daycare. i didnt have a choice either. i just asked lots of questions everyday i picked him up. i told them how i wanted him cared for,ect. the only problem i had was that he got lots of sinus infections/colds.sometimes we moms dont have a choice. just make sure you check out the daycare thoroughly.

Answer 10

I don't believe in Daycare....You should stay home with your baby