Are you in an intercultural marriage?share your story?

Question

are u married to someone from another country or race then yourself?How has this blessed your life?how has it been a challenge in your life?What lessons have you learned? Which country are you and your spouse from?

Answer 1

Yes. My GF is Irish and I'm Scottish. You wouldn't believe the looks we get, a red head with a blonde...people are just so racist these days....racist pigs....

Answer 2

Im american and he's jordanian....let me tell u, there have been some trying times....but in the end, I wouldn't change it for the world! He's the love of my life, and I've been blessed to meet such a man. There r times when I wanna just scream, but a marriage is work. It's not all roses and butterflies. I've have grown and learned so much from him, as he has learned from me. It takes 2 to make an intercultural marriage to work. When it is completely one sided, there is going to be chaos. You need to pick your battles, and understand that compromising is crucial. Education on your spouses culture/religion/beliefs is also important. My advice to anyone who is considering marrying someone from a different culture is to do your homework and talk about EVERYTHING. Know what your getting yourself into, because marriage is hard enough as it is. Adding all the other elements does make it harder, but if it is true love, go for it and love each other :-D
Im startin to get mushy haha

Answer 3

Well I'm not married yet but I'm in relationship where we're from different countries, different races and different religions. He's white (American) and I'm indian (Guyanese). The thing is we have no problems with any of those differences but it seems like a lot of other people do. You know how you get those strange looks and if they manage to talk to you strange questions as well. Frankly there are times when I want to be rude but my boyfriend is really into politeness so for his sake I'm polite. Society is very narrow minded sometimes or maybe its what we're traditionally thought, I don't know. But what matters is that we're both happy with each other and our differences, sure things are not easy sometimes but we manage to work things out and compromise. A relationship is as difficult as the two people want it to be. I think its our differences that have actually manage to attract each other and stay with each other, because everyday we learn something new whether it relates to each other's religion, country or ethnicity. Differences in relationships should be embraced and accepted, as long as that is possible it doesn't matter what people think.

Answer 4

My marriage is interracial. We've been blessed with beautiful children as well as each other. It has been a challenge for my husband; I was his first black experience. He didn't know how to handle it. Lessons I have learned; I have learned that no matter where we come from or the color of our skin we are all about the same when it comes to relationships. We are both from the US but I was raised overseas. He was raised in the midwest

Answer 5

Tara, I am currently in an bi-racial realationship. We have been together for 8 years on July 17th! We have two beautiful girls and are getting married on August 5th! Their has been 3 very awesome blessings from our unity, Niari and Syriana ( our Daughters), and my family that is Italian changing their prejudicial veiws! I will not say that the road has not been tough, it has and I'm sure will continue to be. I have learned though that cultural barriers can bring pain. If both parties are hard headed in their belifs. We have almost broken up many times due to certain things. Example: Strip Clubs- I was raised that only single men go to them. He was raised that if a woman opposes this she is insecure with her self and does not trust you. Oh, how we fought over this one!

Answer 6

I'm a Malaysian and my husband is American. We have many big different in culture and religion. I took it as a challenge. The problem we had is we need to work on where we need to settle down. I have a baby here and family in Malaysia and he got his daughter with his previous marriage in California that he couldn't leave. He doesn't want me to get together with his family because of difference religion. But it's ok, one day I know that he'll be back to me.

Answer 7

I am Korean, lived in California most of my life/ husband is white from Texas. We met in the Navy. I always thought myself not that different from white Americans until I got married. Not only am I discovering cultural differences, but sub-cultural differences; Californians are slightly different in their views from Texans. To learn about something new is always a blessing.

Answer 8

YES, I have married to someone and its a challenge to keep it from falling a part! Its not about love or anything, it's just mainly because she is very jealousy. For her, all single womens R B***h who will steal me from her. She is very unsecured I guess. My other problem is she is jealous of her own son, who loves me a lot and she doesn't like that! they fight almost everyday. Well life goes on, staying together just because I have two kids w her.

Answer 9

Both my Husband and I are Americans, born and raised. My ethnic background is Mexican and Native American. My husbands is Japanese. Both of us have a deep love and respect for our ethnic and ancestral backgrounds. There is a heightened respect for family and the marriage vows. As far as challenges, there are none so to speak. As for blessings, it is a pleasure to share with one another our cultural differences in song, dance, art, language and most of all cuisine. It is a good thing both of us love rice, cause there plenty in our home. My older son said it well to my Husband prior to us getting married, " both of our families come from ethnic backgrounds that are rich in history and respect..." That is our marriage in a nutshell.

Answer 10

I am a from America-European and he is from Nigeria, Africa. It is blessed for the pure fact we don't even notice our racial differences until someone else brings it up. I have a feeling the challenges will come when we have children. Since I have been with him, my eyes have been truly opened to racial conflicts that occur on a daily basis.

Answer 11

well im much too young to marry but my mother is married to a Caucasian man and she's black. I didnt mind i thought it was cool but people in public didnt think so. The main thing that bothered me was how people would stare at me and my family like we were circus freaks but we learned to deal with it. I learned alot from my step-dad and he's taught me to appreciate things more then i do and to look at it from another perspective.