i did not grow up around my dad. but when i was 18 i found him. tried to keep in touch. well for the past 6 yrs i've been sending him pics and letters not response. well his wife and 3 sons failed to tell me he passed away and just kept receiving my mail. should i be upset with his wife, and hope do i discuss this with her without losing my cool??
2006-07-05 19:52:26 · 13 answers · asked by Burrow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ALSO I FOUND OUT FROM MY HALF BROTHER WHO IS NOW 19 , 14 AT THE TIME. I DONT BLAME HIM FOR NOT TELLING ME HE WAS JUST A CHILD HIMSELF. BUT NOW HE WANTS A RELATIONSHIP. JUST HARD BECAUSE THEY 'VE HAD MY ADDRESS FOR ALL THESE YEARS.
2006-07-05 20:10:23 · update #1
You should not be mad at him for dieing but I sure would be at his wife for keeping it a secret. She had your address and could have notified you if she had wanted to. That is just callous and selfish. I would write her an inflamed letter just to get it out of my system and then forget about her. I would not go over there as I would let my temper fly. You have to judge your temper for yourself. In time you will get over this. Good luck
2006-07-05 20:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just turn it over to Jesus. You dad is already gone and there is nothing you can do to change that. Do not be upset with his wife as you do not know if he got the mail or noot. Forgive them because it will just eat away at you and affect your future. There is so much happiness with the Lord and once you find the love of Him, you will see that the past is the past and if you are saved and if your dad was, you will see him again one day as we all will live for eternity, it is our choice as to where it will be. Get connected with a Bible teaching church and get involved with a group your age and learn how to carry on and forigve. Did you know that if you do not forgive people, God will not forgive you of your sins, and how bad would that be? I want to know that when I sin, I can go to God through Jesus and repent and be forgiven. It is a constant battle as long as we are on Earth, but one day, we will live with Him in Paradise, only if we choose to follow Him..accept Him through grace by faith and He will lead your way..stay in His light and follow Him..He is a God of many chances and is always there but the door has to be opened by you as there is no doorknob on His side..it's your choice...choose life
2006-07-05 20:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by BONNIE GLASS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. You shouldn't be upset because there was no real relationship, just biological. You made honest efforts to stay in contact and develop one, but it did not work. Sorry things didn't turn out better for you. There doesn't seem to be any reason to even speak to his wife anymore if there was never any give and take between you. Let it go, pray on it if you need to.
2006-07-05 20:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can u just tell me littel more about your back ground and the situations around you, or you are passing through. You can also send me a mail at pankajvin@yahoo.co.in, nothing can be commented with the information you mentioned in your question, and it is sensitive subject too. But definitely I can suggest something to soothe.
Regards
2006-07-05 19:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mark Steller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be they were confused how to tell u abt ur dad...But anyway...u shud not b upset as this will anoy u but infact try to keep urself busy all the time like you r chatting which is fun but not dangerous...try it keep urself calm...sweet..
2006-07-05 19:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Artist * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing u should do is ask her why she didnt tell you he had died and just hear her out dont lose your cool cuz maybe she is hurt by his death still and couldnt find a way of telling u the bad news
2006-07-05 20:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by rayjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your hurt and pain. However maybe her hurt and pain was to much for her to bear also. Maybe best to have a chat with her in a cool manner and try to put your point across.
2006-07-05 20:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda i think you should feel bad and i don't think you should be upset with anyone.That's kind of a hard Q because you can't control your feelings.If you feel something no one no matter what they say can change how you feel towards someone.If they do it should be in a positive way not negative.
2006-07-18 18:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Angelina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully they buried your letters with him, after a while, extend the offering to invite them to a wake on your behalf
2006-07-05 20:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should be mad, i understand with respect but maybe she felt realy bad and couldnt find the words to tell you, ask her, why you didnt tell me. the first answer sounds right. think about it.
2006-07-05 19:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by cat yall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋