maker while her husband is a computer professional. We used to chat everyday on yahoo and discuss our day to day problems that we come across with our respective husbands.That guy has gone ahead and spyed on all our chats and also he has discussed the same with his parents who are in India.The parents have been since causing her emotional trauma for having spoken against their son to me .She is dead scared of her future and feels that husband might divorce her and snatch her baby from her.She cant even send an email nor call me up. Some one please advise as to whether its a crime to chat with other female friend and what is the need for the husband to spy on his wife. Please help her with a solution so that she no more feels threatened in presence of her husband and what she should do at this juncture .She hasnt discussed anything with her hubby regarding this issue but can sense everything from his behaviour.She doesnt know what lies ahead wen his parents come 2 USA from india
2006-07-05 19:25:51 · 14 answers · asked by Ammy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If her husband is going to listen in he should not get upset about what he hears. Since time began women have talked about men, and men have talked about some type of sports or hunting. Her husband should grow up and realize he has his own family now; and a new boss-his wife. She is also lucky to be in the USA; land of the hungry pit bull lawyers and the like. If he snatched the child he could go to prison and even worse. Adults know that life is different from fiction. Lawyers, child support, alimony, all those ugly and upsetting words. If she is a stay at home mom (the toughest job in the world) and he works in a good paying profession then they should talk over their differences and if necessary consult with somebody older and wiser for guidance and wisdom. If he likes to be privy to everything his wife talks about then he should voluntarily make her privy to everything he talks about so there are no secrets and everybody can be bored to death together.
2006-07-19 04:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best solution is the wife should stay with the hubby and discusse everything if everything is clear no confusion the they will be happy together as married life or marriage is not a game whenever they want they get married and whenever they want they divorced each other and as for privacies...the husband should know everything about the wife as well as for the wife must know everything....If they r married have a child of 2 years they r quite close so they must learn to trust each other....if they are giving each other's love that should be..so where is the question of doupting each other
2006-07-05 19:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Artist * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a little strange. I would be getting away from the guy if I were her. I know that's a little hard in some situations. Someone needs to advise her that her husband has no right to take their child, just because she talked negatively about him. That would be kidnapping, if she's in this country. I've heard that people from India have slightly different ways of taking care of things. The guy sounds like a freak. I feel sorry for your friend. She could maybe go to the police and express her fear of her husband stealing their baby. Good luck
2006-07-17 11:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by amsing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they are both Indian.. isn't there cultural laws that prohibit the wife from speaking against her husband? I don't know how that works. I do know that there are cultural differences, and when someone comes to the USA from another country.. that doesn't mean that those differences just go away. Yes, they might be in America, but they are still Indian.. I think that she should have thought of her culture before she started talking.. I'm not saying it's right..but .. like I said.. I'm Canadian, and our culture is different.
2006-07-18 23:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling but if she's unhappy why are they still together? And yes, he could take the baby and make a run for it. Doesn't matter if she's an American citizen, it's his daughter too, and unless they have some kind of written agreement, he can take her out of the country and leave. It's not kidnapping either. I don't know that much about the Indian culture so I don;t know what's involved.Good Luck
2006-07-19 04:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should speak to her Husband and clear all the confusion. I don't think it is such a big deal to discuss husband/family etc with another close friend and I am sure her husband will be able to understand.
As far as her in-laws are concerned she must clear the air with her husband before they come so that there is no need to discuss a matter as trivial as this.
If her husband turns out to be a complete control freak & a jerk and starts to harass her then she should leave him. I am sure if they love each other he will get her back on his knees.
2006-07-05 19:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by iwinoryouwin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's seriously insecure. She should establish an email address with a password that he doesn't know. Also, check the computer for "EBlocker." If she is an American citizen and gets a divorce here, the chances of him legally being able to gain full custody of the children is very slim.
2006-07-05 19:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS LIVING WITH ANOTHER CULTURE. No there wasn't anything wrong with having a friend. But AGAIN another culture. Your endangering her life and her very being by trying to force things. If she wants to stay in this relationship she has to do this to you. She is obviously not smart enough to hide it. Keep the same email account if things ever end, she will come back for support. It is sad but if she wants this relationship you need to leave her be.
We judge every culture by our own. While I enjoy total freedom others do not. You can't kick amongst all the pricks of culture.
2006-07-16 07:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I am not sure if it is illegal. I mean if she has a long in and password....if anything it is a breach of trust. However he can not take her child. If that baby is US born she is an American citizen and will stay here in the states. If I were her I would not be there when his parents came to avoid unnecessary drama. Sounds like she doesn't need to be married to him anyway, he is a bit to controlling.
2006-07-05 19:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave him for her own good. If she has a husband spying on her then he obviously don't trust her and that is a bit creepy dont you think? Not to mention he is controlling. I have a friend who is married to a guy from pakastan and she has finally listened to everyone and left him.
2006-07-05 19:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mary W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋