I dont want to nag, but once in a while id like him to do some of the things that i enjoy, most of which he doesnt enjoy. Any husbands or boyfriends out there have any pointers?
2006-07-05 19:04:44 · 23 answers · asked by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After reading some of the above advice, I agree with some and just want to give my opinion as well. I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years. She was the one who was a completely different person while we dated. After two years of dating, I moved in. All of the sudden, she quit wanting to go out, picked up more shifts at work, and would bring her work home or talk on the phone in the other room. I would ask her to go out, and she would always be sick, or tired, or her back hurt. Sure, we worked different schedules, but that never stopped her before! I'd just quit asking her after a while, and go out to the bar to talk to people because she would just go to sleep even if we were trying to enjoy a movie together. That, of course, just drove us further apart.
Anyway, I would see if you have changed since the both of you got married. Sure, all people change, and relationships do too. I heard one time that men marry women hoping they won't change, and women marry men hoping that they will. Give it a try on the video games or cards. Maybe you'll like it, or maybe if you give him some of your time he will be more apt to do some of the things that you enjoy. I also like the idea of "date night". That actually worked for a while with my girl & me. Try anything before it goes on too long and you lose what you had in the beggining that made you two get married. Good luck, and I wish the best for you.
2006-07-05 20:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Spillski 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you every tried playing cards or video games with him? My husband and I enjoy some of the same activities, but some different, and that's ok. I go see movies that he really wants to see and in return, he will go to the "chick flicks" with me. Try setting up one night a month for a "date night" One month, you pick what to do, the next month, he picks. There is no cancelling, no whining about what the other one picked. You never know...you might find something you both like to do!
If none of this works...walk in front of him naked when he's playing cards or a video game. (hopefully he's alone)
2006-07-05 19:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by lil_angel64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No One Can Give You What They Don't Need!
You shouldn't have to ask if he realy Loves you then he should want to spend the time with you.
Good Luck!
Do not listen to the people that say join him.I have lived with a man for almost 16years that does that crap and believe me it doesnt get better.You need to find someone that has the same needs and wants as you.
I bet when yall first where going out he was a different person.Gave you alot of attention and treated you real good to impress you.Then wants he has you then you get to see the real them.You find out it's not the person you feel in love with because that person never was to begin with.
That's alot of peoples mistakes.They do things they won't do in a relationship to impress.They get them then they don't have to impress anymore.
Everyone should be "WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET"!!!!!!!!!!! If your not gonna open the door later then don't open the damb thing now!
2006-07-05 19:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is really disturbing. I have some suggestions:
1. Learn how to play cards and b ur husband's partner.
2. Play video-games with ur husb.
3. Learn acting, say I have pain in my <...>, hey come take a look. In this way abuse him. U deserve this.
4. Watch movies and pull ur husb into this.
5. Whenever u go somewhere take him with u.
6. Lastly, cry for some time in front of him.
Best luck//Munna
2006-07-05 19:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by imtiaz1804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Dr. Laura's book The Proper Care and Feeding Of Husbands. It will do wonders. In the meantime: when he is switching games say to him 'Honey, I really respect you because of: how well you provide for the family, how smart you are, etc. Think of something positive that you respect him for. If you respect him he will be more likely to do stuff just for you. Respecting him is the key. He will do anything for you then. What do you do with him that he enjoys?
2006-07-05 19:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a week go on a date. It has helped my realtionship so much. We actually connect. Or you can join in what he is doing and seem interested who knows you might enjoy it more since you will be spending time with him. Or you can go to a slumber party (if you are 18+) and that will get his attention. And bring something home with you :) tiffany.izatt@slumberparties.com www.slumberparties.com
2006-07-05 19:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by SlumberGal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swear do this and it will work. You just have to do it onetime. Walk up to him when he is playing. You either have to be naked or dressed up in something sexxy. And say this. "Come on big boy, why don't you put that joystick down so I can play with yours?" One time is all it takes. He should leave the computer alone for at least a couple of months.
2006-07-05 19:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by The_Answer_Man™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could think of better and more fun things to while my wife is home than play video games. Just tell him how you feel and see if it does any good.
2006-07-05 21:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have never gone through this problem but if he starts to do that I would just ask him if he loves me..and if he says yes well then thats when I am going to take over and tell him "yeayyyyyyyy papi ok then lets go out and be superb lovers" lol ohhh and I am being honest lol
Angie =-)
2006-07-05 19:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married ?? Have you changed ?? Maybe, I repeat Maybe it is not all your husband's fault. You have got some good advice from all the answers especially .about joining him. Act on them. But do some introspection first - maybe u have changed !!!!
2006-07-05 19:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋