help me !!!!!!!!!! i don't know what 2 do............................?

Question

plz i need help i am 17 and me and my bf have been together 4 about 6 months we have already had sex and now he want me 2 go down on him. i thinks its nasty and he said its ok i don't have 2 but he want answer my calls or anything and my friend said he was talking 2 another girl but he said she was just a friend. and i don't wanna leave him so the other day we just had sex and he asked my 2 suck his **** and i said no and he cursed me out and i slaped him and he called me a ho and left. he came by my house and and gave me flowers and said sorry i still don't know whether 2 4 give him or not i love him but i don't know what 2 do plz answer my question. and plz don't think im stupid im just cofused.

Answer 1

You need to make it clear that you have the right to choose what you are comfortable doing and then stick to your guns. If he doesn't like or respect that then he isn't worth having around.
A question for you...why are you so eager to hop in bed at 17?!
A man will not buy the cow if he can get the milk for free....

Answer 2

Pay close attention:

1. He only wants you for Sex
2.You may love him but he doesn't love you!
3.He called you a Ho cuz he does think you are one for sleeping with him so soon after dating.
4. He won't answer your calls unless you tell him you will do w/e he wants.
5.You gave it up to easy, so thats why he thinks he can use you.
6.You are better than that. Don't lower yourself because you love him, have more little self-respect.
7.You shouldn't do somethign you don't want for someone to like you!
8.You are to young to be having sex, your only 17 hun, what decisions are you going to make when you are older.

We all know the truth hurts, but the answer is right in front of you! Im not trying to make you fell bad. Put the pieces together, go on with your life, becuase if he actually cared for you he wouldn't do soemthing you wouldn't like. I hope this helped you and im sure your old enough to make the decision you think it's best.

Answer 3

WOW. This is exactly why is it good to wait until you're older, not that this would have helped you or me, but this is a very particular case.

Do you think your bf loves you, really? If someone keeps asking for something you're CLEARLY not comfortable with, is that being loving, or just being stubborn in the hope that you'll give in??? What do you think? If you think it's gross, DON'T DO IT!!!
I cannot tell you how many times and how sad it is for any person to be forced to do somethign they don't want to do,

I may be sounding a bit extreme, but anything sexually forced is considered rape. How old is he by the way??? Nevermid, you catch my drift, stand your ground say no, he's acting like a complete jerk, ignoring you and talking to t]other girl/girls, who KNOWS what he's really up to, I mean, you're not watching him 24/7 right?

After you had intercourse, it's dirty to do anything down there, I would have said no, just as well!!! So why do you want to stay with him? He calls you names, if he loved you TRULY, he would not disrespect you like that, how sad and awful for you. That's abusive.

I hope you don't think flowers can cure anything, yes they are very nice, lovely, and the thought is what counts. But he also called you names, is that the price you're worth? just a bunch of flowers?

I don't think you're stupid at all, since you're hesitating, and I hope you haven't already. I think you're incredibly smart for having reservations about this. You know you deserve better than this jerk. Let this worthless piece of garbage go and find yourself a guy who will love you and not force you to do it. In time if you wanna try (have the guy take a shower first, so it doesn't taste bad) THEN if you wanna try it, do NOT feel like you have to.

Respect yourself sweety, I'm glad you asked about this.

Answer 4

If you don't want to, don't. I'll be honest though. I like doing it because I love my man and he enjoys it. Reading your question brought back the memory of my first time. It WAS weird and especially when my boyfriend came/orgasmed. If your boyfriend is putting this much pressure on you, he's not worth it. It sounds like he's open to other girls too. You are very young and I'm SURE he's not the one your going to marry and be with forever. I remember my first love and when we split up, I cried for a week! I also has sex with him three more times after we broke up, which was just torture afterwards, knowing he could go off with another girl. I stopped seeing him and kept busy at work and with my friends. You'll be surprised how after you just LET GO, you'll be happier and you'll GROW from this experience.

Beware. All guys will want oral sex (BJ). All of them. If you start going down there... MAKE SURE to say you don't want *** in your mouth... and you DON'T SWALLOW. Take charge and wrap the man around your finger, not the other way around.

I think you bf is a jerk if he's pressuring you into this. Honestly, it just sounds like he wants a BJ from ANYONE. Dump him before he dumps you and your hurt because he's finds some other girl who is willing to suck it off whenever he wants. He just wants gratification and I bet he'll do anyone to get it.

You're young and there are other fish in the sea. Hold your head up and be sassy. Go find another cute face and hot bod.

Answer 5

I agree with you, you are NOT stupid, just confused. This is not a healthy relationship. You can not go on this way. He thinks that by being abusive he can get what he wants from you. If he does it once, he will do it again. If you let him get away with it one time, he will think that it is ok to do that all the time. I know you think you love him, but he is not good for you. If he forces you to do things you don't want to do, then he is abusing you. He is so disrespecting you and your right to control your own body. Get to a woman's shelter and find someone who will listen to you. Call a crisis line, press charges of assault. Just don't let him back, even if he promises he won't ever do that again. It is only a little while before he makes himself believe that he didn't hurt you that bad because you forgave him. Then it will start all over again. It is called the 'Cycle of Abuse' He will tell you, you had it coming and he will try to convince you that it is all your fault. GO>RUN> GET AWAY FROM HIM

Answer 6

hey girl, I don't think you are stupid or confused. I am a 25 year old guy and I know what you are talking about because I once dated a girl who wouldn't do that. I accepted the fact she wouldn't, but will say it was somewhat upsetting because I would go down on her, but I left it as just being an upsetting feeling. If he truly loves you then it wouldnt matter if you did that or not, but from the way it sounds about this other girl, he's trying to hint to you that he is talking to someone who will. I know it is harsh to hear but it is the truth. He was harsh with you to begin with, now buying you flowers, sounds like he is getting best of both worlds and playing you on it in order to hide his cheating ways. Kinda like, the whole idea of keeping you there because he knows what you like. Go with your gut on this one, love hurts, love devastates, and love kills trust. But you have to find all this out on your own. Keep an eye on how he behaves around you, and the excuses he makes when not around you. Seriously, pay close attention to his behavior.

Answer 7

from what i read i would have to say that the second you do give it to him he will feel he can check you of on his list and will move on. i say this because if he really cared about you he wouldn't be trying to pick up on other girls and he would never call you a ho.

for guys it is very important that a woman goes down every so often. so i would think if you want to make a man happy (i say a man because i talking about your future boyfriend. i don't think your current boy will be around for long) you will eventually need to get over the ewww factor and learn.

but as for this guy dump him. he's only pretending to be a boyfriend because he thinks he'll get what he wants. don't give him the satisfaction. if you do dump him expect him to totally start talking crap and possibly start spreading rumors. just a warning.

Answer 8

Ok, you should've done what he wanted, since you agreed to sex and what he wanted was part of it- that is it's one way. Just a friend, he said. That might be true. You don't want to leave him? YOu shuldn't, especially now that you've had a sex with him, and will need a father for the baby, when it's born. Yes, you and he should forgive each other.

Answer 9

Your not stupid, just young...
Listen, you need to think about this really hard, and really take to heart about what I am going to tell you....
If you are not ready, if you don't want to do something, if you think it's gross,or whatever, ANYONE who truly cares about you would not make you feel bad, would not make you upset about the issue, would not get mad. PERIOD. Think about this...
Your parents, teachers, etc. make you do things like homework, chores around the house, be in by your curfew, things like that. These things may make you mad, but do they hurt you? Really hurt you??? Coming in early than you like, may save you from getting hurt, physically, may keep you from legal trouble, (being out later than legally allowed). School work, you must be reasonable and say that you weren't born knowing how to count, spell, read... Teachers and parents made you learn those things, are they BAD? do you understand the difference here?
These people, Teachers, parents, etc. make you do things that HELP YOU GROW, NOT HURT YOU.
This punk only cares about one thing; himself. He wants you to do something you are not comfortable with and the ONLY REASON he apologized is so he can get laid (hopefully) again. He has insulted you, gotten angry with you, berated you (Whore) and made you feel like crap. Certainly, you will agree, that all the junk with school, chores and curfew's don't make you feel like your a piece of crap.
So, why do you feel like crap now? Because you don't want to do something? NO ONE, ABSOLUTLY NO ONE, has the right to FORCE YOU into doing something you are not comfortable with in the degree of this particular subject. If they try to manipulate you, that is nothing but subtle force, physcological abuse, and COMPLETE DISREGARD for who you are and your importance in their life.
Don't be a fool.... You have plenty of time to experiment and it should be done on your time schedule, not anyone else's.
Look, you spend 19years being a teenager. You spend (hopefully) 70 being an adult. Don't rush it, you have PLENTY OF TIME. Tell that punk if he want's a ********, keep forcing girls to do what they don't want and there will be plenty of opportunities for those "big" boys to make sure he get's plenty of oral sex. ( just may not be what he thought!) Catch the drift....
Lose the loser..
You hold your head high, do not give away your integrity to ANYONE...

Answer 10

if your 17 you really shouldn't be having sex until after marriage and that would have solved all the problems no sex nothing for a looser guy to base the relation ship off of dont let him constantly get in your pants that will make him love you for who you are and not WHAT you are