i'm a really down to earth person and a freakish kind of way me and my friends in school are very how do you say close and we do hella **** to each other that normal girls don't do to their friends but we do and girls get put off by this and they start rumors about us and they know me for my violence acts on people(students) and ther scared of me and i'll won't think twice before i'll do some to them but i need to stop being that way and do something to stop the rumors and the people and i don't know how without hurting someone????
2006-07-05 18:24:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
dose this also make me violent???
2006-07-05 18:26:09 · update #1
Unless you can be every place at the same time, you won't be able to stop the rumors. All you might be able to do is minimize the damage and show your friends and acquaintances (who may NOT be your friends) how damaging rumors can be.
Rumors are evil.
2006-07-05 18:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumors are tough to stop but you have to be calm and go up to the person that is spreading them and say in a very calm voice,
"I understand you are telling people " whatever" about me or my friends... is this true? If they say yes then say you need to get a life and get your information right.... do not threaten them...just make them aware that you are on to them. Tell them they need to show respect for other people because life is short... they may perceive this as a threat but leave it at that. Walk away calmly. If it happens again you go back to the person that is causing the grief and ask them what their problem is with you or your friends.
If they make a federal issue out of it then tell them to stop the crap and you will back off.
The only other thing adults will usually tell you is to ignore it but that is easier said then done. If the rumors are really bad then you will need to get some adult assistance from your school.
Try your teacher ( one you trust ) or guidance counsellor is always good too.
2006-07-06 01:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by smilingmick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start beng the kind of person that in general most people like and they won't want to start rumors about you. But just remember you can't control what others do, but you can control how you react to what others do. Hurting people who do things you don't like just makes those people dislike you more. It sounds like maybe you have some self esteem issues that cause anger for you. Maybe talk to a school counsellor or a trusted adult to help you. When you have good self esteem you generally don't care what others say - or at least you don't care enough to hurt them. Good luck to you!
ps - remember - do unto others as you want done to you - sounds cheesy but it;s true
2006-07-06 01:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by mattsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When will you be out of high school? That's when the nonsense will stop.
High school was the worst time in my life. If I had to go back, I'd just do my thing and let all the negativity slide off me as I smiled at all the jerks and went on my merry way. It's hard to do when you're still trying to figure out who you are . . .
2006-07-06 02:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Akapoetry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, change your friends, mind your business, look at yourself, if you dont like you, then change you. Not your friends, your family or the people who starts rumors but you. There's a saying, "Don't start nothin, won't be nothin!" On that note as far rumors concerned. Read that saying and do what it says. Ya feel me. One love.
2006-07-06 01:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by bhamphatback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shut up your mouth. Overdoing things sometimes aggravate situations. Keep your cool.
2006-07-06 02:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw them...just do what u do 4 u...if they dont like it tell them 2 eat **** and DIE.......i love ur name by the way...MISERY....do u need any company with that? ;)
2006-07-06 03:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
~*~ YOU JUST NEED TO FOCUS ON YOUR STUDIES AND NOT PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT PEOPLE THINK/SAY ABOUT YOU.. THEY KNOW THAT YOU GET MAD EASILLY AND DO IT ON PURPOSE.. THINK POSITIVE AND SET GOALS FOR YOURSELF AND ACHIEVE THEM.. DON'T LOWER YOURSELF TO THEIR LEVEL.. AS FOR YOU BEING VIOLENT... IF YOU CAN'T CONTROL YOURSELF YOU NEED TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP BECAUSE SOMEDAY YOU COULD FIND YOURSELF IN SOME SERIOUS TROUBLE..~*~
2006-07-06 21:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mexitaliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋