i am a 21 yr. old female and this is my 1st is it maybe bc i get tense and this is my 1st? is there anything i can do? i want to like sex bc i really love my boyfriend and i like doing it. any good ways i can do it?
2006-07-05 18:20:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Did your parents teach you to be virtuous before marriage? Maybe that's what's making you nervous. In any event, it's good advice.
2006-07-05 18:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say the first to good sex is being comfortable definitly. Find time when you can do it when there isn't a rush to get it over with and enjoy it. That might be why your tense, Also dont worry about being good at it. Trust me its good for a guy whatever you do. Start with a nice full body massage or something to get loosened up. theres nothing better than a nice head rub too. Also dont forget to enjoy foreplay. Theres no point in just rushing things and going straight to sex. If done right, foreplay can be more romantic and exciting than sex. Start slow and work your way up. Good luck with everything.
2006-07-05 18:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by invaderzim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to feel the same way, but that was bc my "first" was horrible to me and made me feel like crap about myself. but, i am so in love now, it's unbelievable, and, ya know what? there are still sometimes that i just want to go to bed, or do the dishes or whatever, and it's got nothing to do with how i love him, bc omg, i love him sooo terribly much... for me, i look into his eyes, and there suddenly is no tension, i'm so at ease, bc i can see that he loves me and is wanting me... but, for the most part, being the 1st is bound to be kinda "uncomfy" bc you are worried about doing a "good job" just close ur eyes and think of how u care for him, and he cares for you, and take it nice and slow...
BUT if you have any quilt for any reason, it will affect that as well... make sure you are not secretly afraid of regretting it later, bc if your not ready, it's so much better to wait
2006-07-05 18:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are tense because you feel vulnerable. If you were in a commited relationship (married) you could relax, because you wouldn't have to worry about being used and discarded, or raising a baby by yourself. As nice as he is a boyfriend is not the same thing as a husband, and you know it.
2006-07-05 18:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to RELAX. Practice relaxing techniques before actual intercourse. Have your boyfriend rub lotion on your back and have him massage your back, then your thighs and go from there. You really just need to relax your body and MIND. Your boyfriend may also need to be told where to touch you. Don't be afraid to tell him what you want. Men orgasm every time, but if you don't tell your boyfriend where your like to be touched, you'll never fully enjoy the moments you have with him. Relax, roll your eyes back, BREATH and ENJOY the sensual touches your man gives you.
If he's not given you what you need, tell him or your experience will only get duller and less gratifying, and it'll seem like work instead of romance.
Go baby!
2006-07-05 18:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by whatzerface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is never what you think it will be at first. Give it and yourself time to find what feels good and explore, Relax, Sex should fun and if you have high expectations the first few times you will likely feel like you do now. PLAY MORE- STRESS LESS.
2006-07-05 18:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by garidor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to RELAX.
Talk to your BF about any issues you might be dealing with, and together, the two of you should be able to work things out.
2006-07-05 18:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bradly S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you should just take things slow and try and get books on this and then you will learn some things and maybe something you will like and want to stick to. hey it doesn't hurt to try something you might like later on you know. :)
2006-07-05 18:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Girly♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink a glass of wine.
2006-07-05 18:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Swampy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls typically take a little while to get truly comfortable with it. If you're comfortable with him, then I guarantee you will enjoy it.
2006-07-05 18:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋