i am 21 years old and me and my soon to be husband really want to have a baby we have tryed for a year and my family really wants a baby in the family and i feel like i am letting everyone down i want a child so bad and so dose he but i just can't seem to get pregnant can somebody please give me some advice i would ask my mom but she took off on me as a baby so no real females to talk to in the family only my grandpa and dad please help thanks
2006-07-05 18:12:08 · 11 answers · asked by coconut breeze 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
1st calm down, you're still young! There's time! And wait until AFTER you get married.
2nd read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wechsler.
3rd since you've been trying over a year already, you might be ready to discuss it with your OB/GYN. She/he can test for problems and offer solutions.
2006-07-06 03:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by TexasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Iam 26 years old and me and my soon to be husband have been trying to have a baby as well, for about 3 years now and the result is nothing, we even went as far as buying some pills to make me ovulate, but the result keeps being the same, oh and i already have 2 kids of my own, I think that it is him for some reason, because he has none. But what you to can do, is try not to think about having a baby when you two are having sex, focus on just each other and see if that seems to help a little!!
2006-07-06 01:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by peachyredgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress and fear are the worst things for conceiving a child. Stop worrying about it and let nature take it's course. The more you stress, the less likely you'll get pg. Don't ask me why, but I've seen many couples go through the same thing and once they forget about it they get pregnant. If, after a year or two has passed and you still aren't pregnant, take the matter to your family physician and let him help you find out the reason. There are many reasons couples can't conceive and your family physician is the place the start. Lots of luck!!!
2006-07-06 01:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all try not to stress about it and try so hard. I know easier said than done! But stress will prevent you from becoming pregnant! SERIOUSLY!
If it has been a year there very well likely could be a infertility problem. I would suggest getting tested (either or both of you).
I found my problem was simple... my ovaries just weren't working. I was put on Clomid to start them back up and now I have 2 more kids!
There is a simple test your gyno can do to see if you are ovulating. That would be my personal first suggestion as it is cheaper than a bunch of other infertility tests! They just have you go in on (I believe it is day 25) on a certain day of your period and draw blood and check your levels.
Hope this helps. Good luck ttc! And congrats on getting married soon! :)
2006-07-06 01:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by GroovySmurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to just stop trying so hard. You are putting so much pressure on yourself that you are too stressed out to get pregnant. I wasn't able to get pregnant until I was 27 because I was always trying SOOOOO hard to get pregnant. When I finally just broke down and said maybe it just wasn't meant to be, started talking about adopting a baby, I finally got pregnant. Now I don't mean start using birth control, just let God do his work and stop worrying so much about getting pregnant. You will get pregnant when your body is ready.
2006-07-06 01:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably stressed out about not being pregnant-relax and don't laugh, but after sex seriously, don't get up and walk around, stick a pillow under your bottom giving his little swimmers some direction and relax. That worked twice for me. I thought that was silly at first and was like I'm not gonna try that but after 3 years I tried it got pregnant right away. and 3 years later did the same thing. Good Luck
2006-07-06 01:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby when you don't want one will give you a baby in no time, yet when you want one..sometimes you just havta keep on trying. As you are 21, still young, I do hope you've finished college and at least have a good job. My other reccomendation is to get married first...before you have your kid...and enjoy your love with your husband...as babies need lots of it. I wish you luck!
2006-07-06 01:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by seanied2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 21 and aout to get married...do not rush to have a baby...enjoy your husband first....
Then when the time is right..do not stress and keep practicing making a baby...and believe me it will happen
2006-07-06 01:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by destine4_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor, they can help you, it could be many things, maybe your just doing it at the wrong time, or he could have a low sperm count, or any other things, go talk to your doctor and he should be able to find out the problem for you
2006-07-06 01:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by pure_star_ocean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the soul that has interviwed you for his /her paretns is just wating for the exact right time to come through into being. just let things be...live as you are pregnant and live as you have a baby this will bring pregnant energy your way...just enjoy your time with your husbund....your child will come if its meant to be
2006-07-06 03:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋