i am 16 and my bf want 2 have sex i mean we kiss and stuff but sex is different im really afraid if he didn't like it he might leave and he might tell his friends i don't know what 2 do i really like him but i don't know if i like him enough 2 have sex. what should i do??????????
2006-07-05 18:07:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The choice is yours, not his. You have more to risk by having sex when you are not ready. If he pressures you, then he doesn't respect you and you would be better off losing him. If he tells his friends you wouldn't sleep with him, tell them his junk was too small and you wanted better. Two can play at that game, right?
Basically, waiting because that's what you want is a good decision. The longer you choose to wait, the better it will be. I'm not saying until marriage or anything, just until you feel ready and comfortable with having sex. If you do decide to have sex, remember to use protection!
2006-07-05 18:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it!! You are too young and will totally regret it later! Trust me. Hes not the man you will spend the rest of your life with and hes probably not worth it. Dont just give in to the hormones and give your body to some guy because he wants it. It isnt worth what the outcome could be. Be careful and smart. No matter what he says or wants. If he dumps you over it then so be it. He definately wasnt worth your time and would have only used you. If he cares about you he will wait until it is right and appropriate. If he isnt willing to do that he is not worth giving yourself to. Please be mature and responsible about this. It will affect your whole life and is a big decision.
2006-07-06 01:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ex-Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun if u dont wanna have sex with him... or those are things u are scared of... then dont!! Cuase if your not ready, and u dont want something like that to screw up ur realtionship then go with what u want. Relationships are always about sex.... You dont need to have sex a billion times for someoen to wanna staywith u... If he breaks up with u after you have sex with him, then he isnt worth it. you should respect yourself enough to only have sex when your ready, and if ur ready and u wana make that choice to have sex with him, and he likes you as much as u like him, it doesnt matter if it was the best sex in the world or it sucked worse then a vaccuum.... he should stay with you. Boys are dumb when it comes to feelings, so dont try asking him " well if i do have sex with u ur not gonna (insert whatever ur scared of) cause at that point hes only gonna be thinking with his small head... Sweetie, Sex isnt worth Worrieng about... if ur scared tell him, and if he understands... HES A KEEPER!
2006-07-06 01:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by A m a n d a [[D o l l f a c e]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know if you like him enough to have sex....then DON'T do it! It is something that once it is done, its done - you can't take it back. It's a big decision to make, but it is worth the wait. Find someone you love and trust and you know it won't run off and tell his buddies - thats really pathetic. Good luck!
2006-07-06 01:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by txstatebob101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with him if he is pressuring you. If he truly likes you then he will not make you have sex with him. You are still young. Tell him how you feel. If he treats you bad because you are not ready then you know he is not a good guy. Many guys nowadays date just to have sex. If he waits for you then he is worth it.
2006-07-06 01:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% sure, then it's not time yet. Wait awhile until you feel like you've been together long enough and you feel very comfortable and relaxed. If he's not willing to stay with you unless you have sex with him, that's a very bad sign.
2006-07-06 01:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by heathernic_410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23, still a virgin. I don't want to do it because I want to be responsible in every action that I do.
I guess we have the same opinion regarding this issue. Stand on what you believe in! Don't do it because he just wants it. If he cares for you, like a boyfriend should, then he should understand your decision.
Best of luck!
2006-07-06 01:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by OIO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my advice if you do not know him well enough to answer if he would leave or tell his friends you should wait until you really can trust him or find another man you can trust. Ask him questions be honest with your feelings and who you are. If he can't be honest about himself you know your answer.
2006-07-06 01:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he loves u for ur SEX u dont have a NICE relatonship hes a Womanizer .......... Have sex if u choose but if he judges tell him to ***** OFf sorry for my langauge
~Taryn <3
2006-07-06 01:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Making love is something special and should be shared with someone special. You only have one first time, save it for someone you truely love and for someone who truely loves you. Don't just give it away to some horny boy because he's your "boyfriend." You are special and deserve to be treated special.
2006-07-06 01:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋