why does he insist on coming back to me if he chose her over me? What makes a guy cheat on his wife??
2006-07-05 18:03:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His wife is the one that broke us up she knew that him and i were going to get married and have a family. I have called all things off with him plenty of times and we had stopped seeing each other for about 1 yr and we saw each other again and it was like we were never apart. i told him that i didnt want to continue (but he insisted time and time again) because i didnt want to get hurt and he finally agreed but now he is calling again
i asked him if it was just sex and he told me "no" that there was something more he felt. IM JUST CONFUSED
ANY COMMENTS
2006-07-05 18:27:56 · update #1
Sounds like he's playing mind games with you, as they all tend to do.....
2006-07-05 18:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well trustful, i am sorry for the situation that has happened,but for what it is worth it could be a lot of reasons why your ex- is still calling you and here are some i think might fit your situation. you may have cheated on him at one point in your relationship and he was never able to get over that,he probably wanted to hurt you for some reason unknown to you,his wife probably gives him support that you didn,t , he was probably in love with her,or he probably thought it was the best thing to do. whatever the situation maybe know that the only way to get the answers you are looking for is to ask him. as for me i am going to share this with you,i lost my soul mate being careless and messing with and having a baby by his cousin, he also has a girlfriend but we are still seeing each other and sleeping together. when we talked the other day i asked him will he ever get married and he said hopefully yes,so i asked him would it be with his girlfriend and he responded by saying if i can,t be with the one i love i might as well love the one i am with. that hurt me but i had to put myself in his shoes i want him to be happy but i know that he will always be in love with me but i messed up so all i can do is let him be free you feel me....good luck
2006-07-06 01:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you say youve been on and off for 5 years,so it doesnt sound as if it were a stable relationship anyway.He chose to be married and if he plans to continue to be married he shouldnt have contact with you or any woman.He doesnt sound stable and doesnt know what he wants and certainly doesnt know the meaning of marriage or commitment.Its so easy for people to cheat ,and thats why they do it , but seems to be so hard for them to be faithful.,You are playing into his games and need to respect his wife even though he doesnt,that makes you just as guilty as he is by participating.Dont take his calls or have anything to do with him.!!!!!He has shown he doesnt have respect for anyone and is selfish!!!! DO you really need this type of person in your life? I should hope you have more respect and love for yourself and move on and find someone who only wants to be with you!
2006-07-06 01:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably gotten in over his head somehow and all he can remember are the "good times" he gave up with you. Funny how our memories can only register the blissful times; he cannot remember any disagreements, only that he's remember the good ole' days and is hoping to rekindle them, whether conciously or unconciously.
You're right about one thing....he chose her. If he's changing his mind now, you'll have to ask yourself how you intend on retaining your dignity if you let him back in.
The best thing for you to do is refuse to give him any encouragement whatsoever. Don't talk to him under any circumstances. Your best-case scenario in this situation if you continue to give him hope is that you get to live happily ever after as the homewrecker and the wuss who can't make up his mind.
2006-07-06 01:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still calls because you've given him the impression that it is okay to call. If not, then he wouldn't call you anymore. Maybe he calls because he's not fulfilled in his marriage, but THAT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO FIX. Men cheat for a number of reasons--boredom, opportunity, missing something at home, temptation, etc. Put yourself in his wife's shoes...how would you like it if you got married, and you found out your husband was still communicating with his ex?
2006-07-06 01:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he keeps coming back to you because he wants to make sure your still his. He is having his cake and eating it too. It's a control thing.
Either that or he really loves you, in which case you should make him leave his wife if he really wants to pursue something with you. Then you'll see how much he loves you or how much he just wants you around for when he needs you.
2006-07-06 01:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married then stay away from him, it is clear he does not know what he wants...he should have made up his mind before he said his i do's...u do NOT want to be a home wrecker...forget him and the relationship, leave it all behind and find yourself a nice decent SINGLE guy, you are worth it!
2006-07-06 01:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nena_555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him...this guy just seems like he calls you when its convienient..ya know? Don't return his calls..screen your calls..and maybe he will get the hint... "Dude, You're married..you made your bed now lie in it..before I call your wife and tell her that you keep calling me!"
Don't be a doormat!
2006-07-13 09:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still thinks about you from time to time, and he still loves you.. Even though he's not IN LOVE with you. There's a difference. Be his friend, and who knows, if you still love him too, there's always a chance ya'll will be together later on.
2006-07-06 01:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman that gave him that advantage already like you have this is what they call having his cake and eating it to been there and done that...
2006-07-06 01:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by i want to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋