Why would my boyfriend rather jack off than have sex? It really hurts my feelings.?

Answer 1

You'll likely get a lot of different opinions and answers to your question. Many of which of are brainless "opinions" and won't help you out.

Let's approach this scientifically first. It's been shown that people who pleasure themselves enjoy love making more. Rather than see this as a threat or something negative, I think you should see this as a positive and it keeps his enjoyment high during sex. I hope this has calmed your confusion to some extent. He isn't cheating on you with another women.

Ok. Now it's your turn. From your question, I'm a little more concerned about you than him. Do you masturbate at all? Have you ever pleasured yourself? I'm a little concerned that the answer will be, "No." If that's the case, you may be suffering from what many females are suffering from, which is sexual repression. This means you and many other women have been brought up in an environment that does not express themselves sexually or openly.

From the sound of it you want your boyfriend to spend his sexual energy on you. So, first you should get comfortable with what you like and don't like sexually. Don't be afraid to explore! If there are somethings you like and feel like moaning, go for it and bellow it out; don't try to surpress it. If you feel like thrusting your hips back onto his stiffy, go for it.

Lastly, I suggest you seduce your boyfriend sexually. If you love your boyfriend, I am sure you get some pleasure out of seeing him aroused! Try walking around the apartment naked sometime and be sure to bend over a lot. Surprise him with oral sex when he's least expecting it. Ask for oral sex from your boyfriend and talk dirty to him when he least expects it. Don't go all the way though, just enough to get him all aroused throughout the day...

I think in the end you'll find it's a win win situation for you and him, so don't worry about the jerking off. You should do it more yourself.

Have fun!

Answer 2

News flash for you, honey; it's not uncommon. My ex used to do this all the time and I can't honestly say I didn't do it myself. They call it self-love for a reason. Sometimes, however, a man can have trouble getting off with intercourse (I've known two) just as a woman can have trouble getting off with intercourse.
My advice is to discuss this with him. He may have a reason, but for both your sakes, and your relationship, broach the subject gently. I'm suggesting a line such as "I've noticed you tend to masturbate frequently. Not to be rude or scary or anything, but are you satisfied with our sex life or is there something you'd like to see happening?" If you have a good relationship with the guy, then talking is a must-do. If you don't, and the maturbation bothers you that much, then move on.

Answer 3

you are really going to have to talk too him about this. it could be a few reasons.ex while jacking off he is fantisizing about some thing he feels un able to share with you. or the warmth and wetness are to much for him extra sensitive. you could also explore masturbation with him. hopefully it is not that you have changed and he is no longer turned on by you.(if this is the case the sooner you find out the sooner you can resolve or move on)

Answer 4

Wow! Im sorry! :-( My feelings are hurt for you too. Thats messed up! I dont know what I would do if my bf did something like that. It has to make you feel unattractive. Does he know its hurting you like this and just not care? If so I would say leave him! You dont deserve that. If not tell him! He has to know how you feel. He sounds a little strange to me. Addicted to porn maybe? Maybe he needs therapy or something. Good luck hun! I hope he stops for you, but if not go find a man who loves you more than himself! There are a few out there.

Answer 5

Perhaps all the spanking has reduced his sensitivity during sex. Maybe he has other things going on in his head and can't concentrate enough to achieve orgasm. Lastly maybe he needs a physician to see if he has a problem. Try KY warming lube and see if this improves your sex life..

FOREPLAY is of utmost importance if he has trouble concentrating. Slow and sensuous is the key, get him to the point of wanting to spank it. Then you can get moving, I mean that figuratively and physically. Contractions of your muscles drive a guy nuts and will make him focus on the pleasure of the release that will soon overcome him. Move those hips. Lightly stroke his balls during sex, eventually he will probably lose control and the whole experience will be incredibly exciting...trust me... HAPPY ORGASMS

Answer 6

First, did you ever ask him or thought about it? If yes, and your bf refuse to tell you the ans..guess we have to think about his actions.

It could be he is worried about somthing that he could not make love to you. And he is under stress. You know, Man or Woman, either gender, when they are too stress and under the impresson that something is bothering them badly, they could not even have the mood to smooch around.

Try to find out by his actions, friends, co-worker..etc to know more. There is nothing more than a caring gf like you. Mean while, be understanding..just endure alittle:)

Answer 7

Sometimes is because before you, he didn't have too much sex with someone and he used to do this and he enjoy because he knows his body. Don't worry , when he get more mature, he will stop that.

Answer 8

feel bad for him. That is weird. He actually told you that? MAYBE he is afraid he is not good enough in bed for you. Ask him.

Good luck

Answer 9

What is "jack off"?

Answer 10

Gurl,you fo'real.I don't know why.Maybe your not good or He's just not into you.That's what I can only come up with.