why do people do things that are only going to hurt them? over and over?

Answer 1

because sometimes we need to fall on our @sses a couple of times before we get the point!

Answer 2

There is a book called "Women who love too much". This book talks about "the familiar dance". This dance is a pattern which is set in motion from the moment of birth. How we are raised, socialized, fed, educated, and integrated into life sets this pattern. What seems to be a simple thing to say enough s enough to one person, may not be for another due to this pattern.

Co-dependant relationships are rampant in humanity. We tend to find people who fit into our pattern because change is one of the most (seldom admitted) fears to humankind. When that pattern is broken by the other person, our knee jerk reaction to this shift of pattern is to ask them what is wrong with them! In fact, the blame lies within to the degree of our own inability to step to a new pattern.

And the dance goes on.

Fortunately for me, I read this and it hit me like nothing ever had. Not only did I break the pattern, but I broke the mold. No more having to say I keep doing the same thing and expect different results.

Answer 3

angeloffaith777, we are creatures of habit and of doing what we are comfortable with even if it hurts us. That is exactly why people that stay in an unhappy marriage stay, it's why people do what they've always done. It takes about 31 days to break a habit and to form a new one, but it can and if one chooses, will get done.

Answer 4

Some of us don't like facing the truth! It's easier but the pay off isn't as great as getting one's butt kicked for acting out!
If one is used to pain and discord and chaos, then like any drug it becomes a habit!
As humans anything we learn is based in a routine. Practice , practice , practice!
If we like bad behavior , it's the payoff! We have to get something for our pain or happiness!
If someone is overtly fond of lying to themselves , which we cannot do , then it's a condition of denial and only people can change if they want too!

Bottom line : Man/Woman/Boy/Girl can change if they want too.

Answer 5

Well for me i have hurt myself over and over again to try to gain the love of my Father which i still have yet to do, he and my mother divorced whenever I was two years old and he didnt want anything to do with me , he sexually assaulted me whenever I was 8 and i still feel as though it is partially my fault. I am really trying to gain his postive love as a father. I feel like i need him in my life, but in return all i get is hurts

Answer 6

The definition of insanity is repeating a task over and over again, and expecting a different result

Answer 7

because they dont know that its hurting them until there is so much pain that it over takes them.......then they cant handle it and try and end the pain by just hurting themselfs more either in the lond run or at that moment........its a big cycle of hurt anger fear and really all of your emotions!

Answer 8

Humans are the stupidest animals on this planet, they feel they can change the world and most cant even wipe their rear. that's why so many people fall into bad relationships thinking it could change. I could tell you not to go out tomorrow because you'll die and chances are you'll even wake up extra early to go out.

Answer 9

Humans are the only animal that step twice on the same rock.

Answer 10

I think its because they haven't learned their lesson, or in some cases, they blame others because they do not want to accept the blame.