my sister and her boyfriend has a 6 yearold daughter.they both had gone through a really rough patch in their relationship for about a year..in which they had al lthose nasty fights...domestic voilence perhaps.the girl seemed to witness all that during that period.though everything has smoothened out now and they are really happy now...thing which is bothering my sister the most isthat the girl might be having a lot of memories.i had tried to convince her that may be she wouldn't remember it so much as she seems to be a happy child to me.(she recollects 2-3 big fights)
is it that a big issue?how can she help it?
2006-07-05 17:38:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You'd be amazed how much children remember, and that is an important consideration, but a larger issue is making sure that all instances of physical violence have been permanently ceased. If you are correct and they have surpassed that hurdle, then congratulations are in order and on to the next remedy: family counselling all around. That will help solidify healthy changes the relationship is undergoing, and it will give some quantifiable insight into how much the child actually recalls. Good luck.
2006-07-05 17:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well about 5 or 6 kids really start to understand things. they will remember current things or even stuff from the past. yes, this might be an issue if the people who were fighting meant a lot to her. she might never be the same until she does forget it. if it was too big of a fight she might remember it forever. which means she will always think different of the person
2006-07-05 17:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Balletbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she can remember it... kids start really remembering about 4 years of age. I wouldn't make a big deal about it unless the little girl brings it up. And in that case, maybe they could do some family counseling together. Good luck.
2006-07-05 17:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the age of four they can remember just about everything. She might be blocking it out. They just need to let her know that none of it was her fault. If they can maybe they can seek professional help for her or at least get their professional opinion if they feel that a visit with them is necessary
2006-07-05 17:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids remember almost everything. The important thing is to not let the child think any of the problems are her fault.
2006-07-05 17:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by yanially 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋