You know like when you break up with someone but compare other dates to that person in your mind, and reflect on the memories from the relationship, or just hope somehow it may be in the future?
2006-07-05 17:36:53 · 14 answers · asked by nexus2k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know what you mean....Especially if in your life you've had a lot of different relationships.
You tend to take the best memories of each and try to combine them into the ideal person.
Maybe one guy was really romantic...another might have been the best lover. You might even have had a guy that could fix anything around the house.
The problem is....that when your current boyfriend is neglecting you...you tend to think back to the ex that would always be there when you needed him.
The problem is....if they were so perfect...they wouldnt be ex's.
2006-07-05 17:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we all have a tendency to remember the good things about people we still care about and ignore the reason we are no longer with them. If you spent a long time with the ex it's very natural to compare them to new boyfriends. So while your remembering how great the ex could sometimes be also remember the reason your not there and move on the grass always looks greener on the other side
2006-07-05 17:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being fair to yourself if you cant let go of an ex.Certainly there were things you loved about them ,and more things you didnt or they would not be an ex. People become blinded by others and dont look at the reality of the situation.This ex and you were not meant to be together or you would be now.By doing this wouldnt be fair to a potentual relationship if your comparing them to an ex,your too busy doing this rather than getting to know the person your dating ,you wont allow yourself to know them.Thats hardly fair to them or yourself.This will get you nowhere only alone!!!!!
2006-07-05 17:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind is a most fabulous thing; It has its own strange ways. It likes to roll over all the relevant past erxperiences with the present & prospective ones. It finds solace ingoing down the memory lane living the past & comparing them. This is a welcome feat of the mnd. We must thank ourselves for having this rarest blessing of life.
Why grudge being Happy? You must be delighted the way we all are.
We all seek happiness & rolling our past experiences (even sad ones) over & over in mind gives us happiness.
Because they are all part of our lives & the Present is just a continuation of the Past & the Future, an extension of the Present (gift)!
2006-07-05 17:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, because they shouldn't be exs. which means that whoever did the breaking up, made a mistake, in which case that someone wants to go back to the ex and ask for another chance, perhaps even do some things you didn't do before (that would include behavior) and/or even beg for another chance, and agree to anything to get it! If you feel that way, do it!
2006-07-05 17:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the sex is better without the commitment.
Seriously though, everyone builds a fantasy person in their mind and try to seek that person, but often the person that is the most right for you isn't even close to that image!
2006-07-05 17:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by lifeinquestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are wonderful in most ways and they had a lot of qualities you would like to find in a future mate. However always keep in your mind why they're the ex. it's safer.
2006-07-05 17:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by pohter1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People convince themselves that there is ONLY ONE love in their entire lives, and they don't know that in this world there are different people with whom they COULD fall for if they ever met. Love isn't the storybook that people try forcing it to be, and people won't discover real lasting love as long as they won't learn to let go of an ex and move on. We all can move on.
2006-07-05 17:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can let go of them because you have shared wonderful moments with them that you'll always treasure and still hold on to the hope that you'll have a happy ending with them or that you'll find someone similiar to them.
2006-07-05 17:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by sugar n' spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still in love with this person and you are trying to figure out what went wrong with the relationship.
2006-07-05 17:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by christine s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋