Is this wrong?

Question

I am 13 and my cousin is 12. We've kissed alot of times and when no one was home and he was over(my mom was downstairs asleep) we kissed(tongue) and we almost had sex.
I stopped it as quickly as I started it. I no longer feel comfortable with him.
Is this a coincedence? Or did I want it so badly, that I was willing to try incest?

And the thing is, we always kissed when I was upset over either my boyfriend or a boy I liked. I've always wanted to have sex but I know I'm too young and if I do now it will ruin my whole life. I can control myself, it's just that whenever I kiss a boy I get horny and can't stop. So I don't kiss my boyfriends anymore. But I told them that if we did ever kiss, to stop me if I take it too far. It works.
Is there something wrong with me? Since I can barely control myself with kissing and incest, should I just NOT kiss anymore?
Please help me.
And please do NOT judge me

Answer 1

Please stop kissing your cousin, yes it would be considered incest. However, maybe you kiss him because it feels safe for you because you feel you have more control and won't let it go any further than this because he is your cousin.

I think you can still kiss others, just be choosey. I had sex at an early age, I had intercourse when I was 12 years old, now I'm 43. But I also was sexually abused as a child, therefore, I was promiscious and had sex way too early. It's perfectly "normal" that your horney. Your hormones are playing a big role in this right now. Do you masturbate. It's perfectly healthy and a great stress reliever for all those raging hormones you're feeling right now. It's also a great way to know how to give yourself pleasure. You'll realize you can do this to yourself without needing a boy to give you the pleasure. Having sex early won't ruin your life. But, from experience, I feel that if I had waited, it would have been much better. Know that you have a LOT more to offer a guy than just sex. Try to not let yourself be in a situation that would let you go any further than kissing, i.e. double dating, don't be alone with a boy, ect. It's very brave and smart of you to ask these questions. Keep listening to you inner voice, or that gut feeling. It's usually right. Your gut told you to stop the kissing with your cousin before it went too far. Please email me if you have any more questions. I am not judging you at all. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Sweetie, read this. Read what I am about to type, I KNOW I can help you.

Now, first, just to let you know, I am 13 too. I know what you are going through. I understand. Our horomones are out of control, and we can't Da*mn well help it. That is something to think about.

Okay, kissing your cousin. I am NOT going to judge you! I used to have a CRUSH on both of my cousins, but since they are WAY older than me, I could never kiss them. I, however, am alright with incest. I feel if it's love....
BUT, that's not what you are doing. You are just kissing and that is OKAY. Please know that. It is OKAY! So don't worry.

Kissing guys gets me excited too, babe. That doesn't mean stop, but know that you are in control of this. You should try having a friend around you at all times to make sure you don't get out of control. It will HELP. I PROMISE.

So, in all, don't stop kissing. Do what you want. Just be CAREFUL! Stop when you get uncomfortable! And with your cousin, go ahead. If you are both okay with it, then go with the flow.

Babe, I wish you the best of luck. You sound so smart, and I know you will stay smart.

Good luck!

Answer 3

At your age, kissing cousins are common. Not exactly healthy to continue long term, but not uncommon. Describing what you feel about yourself, you shouldn't have boyfriends, shake hands or wave at guys.

You are probably normal, but if you keep seeing guys, your sixteenth will not be sweet. And worse than that, your only present may be a dead rabbit.

BTW- A lot of people learn how to kiss from a cousin, hence the term "kissing cousin". The tongue is optional.

Answer 4

Honestly, yes you should stop kissing, you have a problem and that problem could grow worse if you don't stop and find support for it. You should stop relying on your younger cousin for support with your love life because that's a trap that we could all fall into. Try your mom or some of your female friends, or an aunt. And also cool it in the dating world for a couple of years may be not stop all together but just don't date as much.

Answer 5

I know that sex is really exciting, but you have to think about the fact that if you had sex with your cousin how ashamed you would be of yourself. Also, if you got pregnant, your child could have serious mental or physical handicaps that can be a product of incest. Also, you are too young to have children and a child born of incest would be humiliating to you and your cousin, and probably your entire family. It will haunt you your entire life if you don't stop this now.

Answer 6

I can remember being that age and how hard it was to control my hormones I ended up waiting until I was 15 and I wish I would have waited until I was more mature to handle the after affects of sex. My advice to you is if you can't control yourself do not let yourself get into a bad situation and you should not be kissing your cousin I think it stopped because you know deep down it is wrong to have sex with a relative. I would stay away from him until you know you can handle your impulses.

Answer 7

Yes, kissing your cousin and definitely having sex with him is wrong. At 13 your hormones are on fire. I know others have said stop kissing boys. That's actually good advice....but that's not enough. Find another activity to keep you busy. Swimming, sports, theatre, dance....best if it's physically active. Spend more time with your girlfriends and not so much time with boys. Good luck!

Answer 8

You know not to kiss your cousin, that is your family. You too young to be sexually active, and kissing can lead to sex. I don't know you or your situation, but based on what you have written here you need serious counseling and to talk to your parent/guardian.

How can one not judge you? Really, people judge each other all of the time, even if they say they are not, they are...get used to it.

Answer 9

Some of the hottest sex I've ever had was with my cousin. Sure didn't feel wrong until I found out we were related. Now we only do it when we're in the same town at the same time.

Answer 10

Its ok to feel the things you are feeling, but its wrong to be kissing your cousin and especially comtemplating having sex with him.
Though its good that you choose not to have sex at 13.