can discussing a problem over n over actually cause a damage to a relationship?

Answer 1

yes it can because if the discussion is over n over that means that one of you is really hurt, and that problem follows you all day even in intimate moments; if there no solution cut the problem from the roots, and if there is a solution give yourselves a time & place to talk sbout it to find a solution after that never talk about it again.

Answer 2

Anything done badly can harm a relationship, such as not fighting fairly, or re-hashing old issues that were thought previously resolved. That gets old and it gives your partner the sense that no matter what is tried they "can't get anywhere with you". On the other hand, if the issue is far from resolved, and needs to be re-visited for clarity, you and your partner should have the freedom and wisdom to talk it out until a mutually satisfactory resolution is achieved. Occasionally there will be those issues that seemingly can't be "resolved" to suit either one of you. In those instances, maybe it would be helpful to acknowledge those differences, and mutually agree to move beyond them for a time until a satisfying option presents itself. That option recognizes the importance of hearing your partner and being willing to work things through, while at the same time minimizing the damage one issue can cause to an otherwise healthy relationship.

Answer 3

Of course. If the problem was resolved, you wouldn't need to discuss it again. The person bringing up the problem is not getting the results they need. The other person either doesn't want to solve the problem, or doesn't understand what the real problem is. Either way, both parties are frustrated.
Very often the thing people fight about is not the real issue.
If you can't solve the problem it is time to face facts, the relationship isn't working. Move on.

Answer 4

It is called living in the past, if you have already had the talk about it then just let it go. Most of the time when we dont get the answer to a problem that we want then we do rehash it over and over till we do. Most of the time relationship feel a strian from it. Just let it go and if it happens again then deal with it.

Answer 5

Very much so. One of my ex's always wanted to discuss everything over and over and over...put it this way....I hate him. He drove me crazy. Resolve it, forgive and forget, and move on. If you can't, then you honestly need to reconsider your relationship, because it is really unhealthy for you to focus on something in the past...or if it's a problem that keeps arising, then you both need to decide what needs to be done now, not later.

Answer 6

Yes i know it can.I know i am guilty of this.I know for me i do this because the issues have not been resolved due to poor communication by my mate.He feels it's been resolved and i dont since i dont feel any better after discussing the issue.So i keep going over the same things....he says thers nothing more he can say.He doesnt knowwhat to say ,it reserfaces in my mind and i am the one who needs to let things go because it gets in the way of more important things.

Answer 7

Yes. If you can't resolve it, see a counselor. Otherwise, it will become a major problem that could cause you to split up.

Answer 8

Yeah, sometimes people can talk a subject to death all the while sitting on their *** and doing absolutely nothing to try to fix the problem.

Answer 9

depending on the problem but if u have to keep talking bout it that means the problem has not been resolved

Answer 10

yes