I divorced her dad when she was 11 mo old, so she really never lived with him or knew him well. When she was about 10 yrs old she told a big lie which nearly landed me in jail, a huge legal mess came out of it and I spent thousands on attorneys. To make a long story short. she lived with him for about 4 yrs. Her big brother stayed with me. I was reluctant, but I allowed her to move back home to live about 4 yrs ago and deeply and honestly, its been a mess. She manipulates and lies. I have spent more than I could afford on counseling for her and I am just heartbroken. She is 18 now and I see so much of her dad in her it makes me sick. She just graduated high school & has no job, no car, no money, no nothing. She lives with a guy who has no teeth, a little girl and no ambition. He is so much like my daughters dad its crazy.
I havent spoken to her because she has no phone and it makes me sick to see her wasting her life. For my sanity, I need to cut her off for now. Suggestions?
2006-07-05 17:24:20 · 8 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel guilty and ashamed. I am drained and I need a break. It has been so peaceful here since she left. I actually sleep at nite and managed to have a few conversations with my son. I feel like I missed out on his whole life trying to deal with her. He is all grown and I missed the last 4 years with him.
2006-07-05 17:40:04 · update #1
PS this isn't a joke. I could go on and on. I am surprised I still have my sanity.
2006-07-05 17:42:11 · update #2
it sounds like you've made an effort with your daughter. a good idea to give yourselves a break from each other. she is 18 and seems to need to grab some responsibility. you can be there for her, and that's about it. it will come around for her, but maybe not in the time you want it to happen, or in the way you want it to happen. oh well, it's not your life.
2006-07-05 17:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her to make her own mistakes she's still young and i know i'm 19 and didn't live with my mom for 6 years and when i finally moved back with her me and her have been closer than ever before and i moved out and into another state but we still talk and stuff but give her some time to think about what she is doing she should eventually realize what she is doin and want to change her relationship status with u. but g/l and i hope the best for you and don't worry about it too much,but i understand how u feel i really missed my mom those years we were apart.
2006-07-05 19:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by mochachinalatte18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on your kids. Remember you were the one who brought her into this world. You should try harder to teach her the ability to make good decisions. You don't want to think back at it one day and say " I could do better to help her".
2006-07-05 17:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kent N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a break./ She just turned 18. What do you aspect from a kid. She will come back to you once she is lonely....
2006-07-05 17:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to set your boundaries and limitations with her. Don't turn your back on her completely.
2006-07-05 17:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real I am so glad I am not you.All I can say is pray and pray hard.
2006-07-05 17:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let be, cuz when she see that she is making a big mistake she'll be back.
2006-07-05 17:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by tanisha a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes 18 already leave her make her own mistakes (give me ten points please)
2006-07-05 17:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋